Stop scrolling, start parenting: The impact of smartphone use on kids

BY AMARI SUKHDEO

Picture this: a child sits at the dinner table, eagerly sharing what’s on their mind, or their day at school. Yet, the moment is lost on their parents, who are engrossed in their smartphones. This familiar scenario is more than just a daily annoyance—it could be taking a toll on children’s mental health.

Recent research highlights a troubling trend: kids aged 9 to 11 whose parents are frequently absorbed by their phones are more likely to experience anxiety, attention issues, and hyperactivity. “When children’s emotional and physical needs are consistently ignored or inappropriately responded to, they are at risk of developing mental health difficulties,” explains Sheri Madigan, an associate professor of psychology at the University of Calgary.

This “technoference” is not just a modern inconvenience, but a significant factor in childhood development. The term refers to the disruptions in parent-child interactions caused by excessive smartphone use. Studies reveal that when parents are preoccupied with their devices, the quality and frequency of their interactions with their children suffer. This can lead to weaker parent-child bonds and, ultimately, developmental issues in children.

“Fewer and lower-quality parent-child interactions impact a child’s development in various ways,” says Dr. Lisa Harris of New Canaan Pediatrics. “Parental screen time interrupts the development of ‘joint attention,’ a crucial skill for socialization and forming meaningful relationships.” Joint attention helps children recognize when someone is engaging with them and reciprocate that focus—a fundamental component of emotional bonding and social skills.

The repercussions extend beyond immediate interactions. Research shows that chronic inattention from parents, often due to screen distractions, can lead to behavioral problems and a decline in self-esteem among children. When children learn that interrupting a parent’s screen time elicits a negative reaction, they may cease seeking interaction altogether, further straining the relationship.

So, what can parents do to mitigate these effects? Begin by auditing your screen habits and setting designated “device-free” times. Simple actions, like refraining from checking your phone during meals, or while engaging with your child, can make a significant difference. “Create intentional moments of interaction and model responsible screen habits,” advises Dr. Harris.

Understanding that our screens can be a powerful distraction is the first step towards improving family dynamics. By choosing to engage meaningfully with our children rather than getting lost in digital distractions, we not only foster stronger relationships, but also set a healthier example for our children’s own screen use.