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DearSelfLove: Kaysia Baker explains why self-love is so important to her

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BY GLORIA O’KOYE

Love!

One of the most cherished and despised feelings that had been ingrained in us since the beginning of humankind. It has often been mistaken for infatuation and other emotions. It is often the cause of a person reaching their breaking point. Books, famous quotes and sayings, TED talks, love gurus, and much more profit so much on giving advice and tips on achieving love and healthy relationships. There are also online tests and readings on compatibility, personality, and love languages to understand how you give and receive love.

When we usually think of love we think of others. We forget that the most important love we need to maintain is the love we have for ourselves.

When you first heard the word ‘self-love’, what are the first thoughts that come to your mind? Does this word hold weight in your daily life, or is just another trend that society is hyping up but not understanding the word in-depth? What are some self-care practices that promote self-love? Is it a night out with your friends? Turning off all your devices and reflecting on nature or in a quiet place indoors? Is it listening to meditations or doing breathing exercises? There is no one way when it comes to showing love to YOU!

However, self-love is usually marketed and/or misunderstood as something that is always positive and joyful. It barely talks about the not so pretty parts such as the hurt and tears of rebuilding a strong and healthy relationship with you. We try to focus on the good parts of the healing journey, but there should be an emphasis that it is not easy. It also needs to dive deep into the ugly and to express thoroughly that to draw out the beauty of self-love, we must come face to face with the truth and what we tend to push under the rug. The journey to self-love can be unpredictable and there may be times you will take one step forward and ten steps back, but the most important thing is that you made progress.

Everyone has their own experiences, interpretations, and perspectives when it comes to self-love, and I also want to let everyone know about a powerful individual that has been doing great and necessary work within our communities. I want to give thanks to this beautiful soul as they share more about their story and what they are currently doing to promote self-love. Through the storms and tribulations, they were and still are continuing to outshine any obstacles to shed more light into this world.

“My name is Kaysia Baker and I am a twenty-seven-year-old mother to a beautiful one-year-old. I was born and raised in Toronto. Both of my parents emigrated from Jamaica in the early 1980s.

As a child of immigrant parents in Canada, I was well aware of the hustle it took to become someone in this world. My mom provided my sister and me with the best she could as a single parent, I would go on to say she succeeded. When I was younger, my mother would strive to make sure we were involved in many extracurricular activities from girl guides to swimming lessons. Our summers were eventful and holidays were always memorable. My mother always encouraged us to try new things and to explore the world around us.

Education in our home was always pushed as a marker for success. With that being instilled in me as a young child I would always push hard to become successful. I did meet many challenges with that in high school, but I eventually got my act together in college. I graduated from Humber College in 2016 from the Early Childhood Educator Program. Working with children has always reminded me to never lose sight of the child in myself and to always remain joyful.

I started DearSelfLove in January of 2019. The page was created to simply keep me inspired while I inspire others on my journey! When I first began the page I was at a point in my life where I desperately just wanted to heal from a lot of painful experiences.

Before DearSelfLove I was always in and out of a healing journey. I was reading the right books, gaining the right knowledge, surrounding myself with somewhat of the right people. I was frustrated and impatient at the fact my healing wasn’t happening fast enough. At the time I was going to continue to live my life the way I was until a special person in my life named Nathan Baya, offered me the idea to run a page and provide positive and inspirational content.

At first, I was hesitant and afraid, then the idea grew on me and I took a chance. I am so glad I said yes that day! This page has allowed me to express and heal in a multitude of ways. If I knew the power of loving others amid my brokenness would heal me, I would have said yes years ago.

In the year and a half that I have been running this page, the one challenge that I have faced was during pregnancy. During my pregnancy, and a bit of a time after, I took a hiatus from the page itself. I was having a hard time connecting to myself which spilled over into connecting with others. I am a woman of integrity and truth. With that I felt as though it wasn’t right for me to share positivity with others from a place I didn’t truly feel myself. I gave myself time and when the time was right I came back to what I knew I had the capacity of doing.

I knew that meant making new choices that reflected my personal growth. Now I am taking DearSelfLove day-by-day and speaking things only of my heart to share with others. I want to remind others the journey is never linear and it is never perfect but it is always for you! 

Self-love to me means knowing you have good, amazing, bad, and crappy stuff about you but you CHOOSE to love all of that about you regardless. It means knowing your worth and walking in that!”

I want to thank Kaysia for pushing this wonderful initiative and continuing to thrive in all she does. Please continue to support her and the DearSelfLove page by following DearSelfLove Instagram, participating in upcoming events, comment and share among your networks!

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Timeless music brought to life on stage; Welcome to the Soul Nostalgic Experience

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BY SIMONE J. SMITH

“Ladies and gentlemen, welcome to the Soul Nostalgic Experience! Tonight, we’re taking a journey back in time to relive the magic of an era that continues to inspire and captivate audiences worldwide. Are you ready to feel the groove?”

The audience erupts into cheers and applause as the band launches into a classic soul tune. People start swaying in their seats, unable to resist the infectious beat. A few brave souls even start dancing in the aisles.

Imagine being transported back in time to the golden era of R&B and Soul music, where smooth melodies and infectious rhythms ruled the airwaves. Now, envision this timeless music brought to life on stage with the energy and spectacle of a Las Vegas residency.

That’s precisely what the Soul Nostalgic Experience is all about. As I stepped through the doors, I was greeted by the smooth ambiance of classic R&B tunes mingling with the clinking of glasses and the tantalizing aromas wafting from our kitchen. The atmosphere was electric, alive with the anticipation of what the night had in store.

In the heart of Toronto’s vibrant music scene, there exists a figure who orchestrates brilliance from the shadows. Steve Hollywood, a name whispered among those in the know, is the unseen force behind many of the city’s musical endeavors. Despite his significant contributions, he stays removed from the spotlight, preferring the quiet hum of behind-the-scenes influence. Regardless, his presence remains enigmatic, known only to those privileged enough to collaborate with him. It’s a rare invitation to glimpse into his world, an offer extended to a select few, beckoning them to join the symphony of creativity he meticulously curates.

On Thursday, April 25th, 2024, the Toronto Caribbean Newspaper was welcome to the Acqua Supper Club, where the heartbeat of Toronto’s R&B and Soul scene will pulsate throughout the summer. Nestled in the heart of the city, the venue is a sanctuary where men and women will be able to gather for unforgettable evenings of soulful music and culinary delights.

At the helm of this musical journey is none other than DRU, a Juno Award-winning and gold record artist with a visionary passion for bringing back the magic of the 90s and 2000s R&B/Soul era. From timeless classics to contemporary hits, his performance was a journey through the soul, evoking nostalgia and stirring the spirit. Inspired to create something truly special, DRU collaborated with the immensely talented The Recipee Band to craft a show unlike any other. The Recipee Band, comprised of musical virtuosos: Jason Larmond, Otis Williams, Juwayon Clarke, and Jonathan Kerr, bringing over two decades of collective experience to the stage.

Drawing from a diverse range of genres and generations spanning from the 50s to the present, The Recipee Band serves as the backbone of Soul Nostalgic, infusing each performance with their unmatched musicality and passion. Soul Nostalgic isn’t just a concert; it’s a collective of exceptional talent coming together to create an immersive experience that will transport you back in time.

The night brought me through a ray of emotions, from high-energy dancing to electrifying live music, every moment of the show was designed to make you groove and feel good.

As the night unfolded, I found myself immersed in a world where time seemed to stand still, where the troubles of the outside world faded away, and all that mattered was the connection between music, food, and community.

I completely co-sign on this unforgettable journey. On May 30th, 2024, they are sharing this experience with the city again, so get ready to dance, sing along, and relive the magic of an era that continues to inspire and captivate audiences worldwide. This is more than just a concert; it’s the Soul Nostalgic Experience.

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Generational survival: Can our young people survive our generation?

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BY STEVEN KASZAB

The young people of the day are often criticized for not voting or participating in our electoral and public service efforts. Called bubble wrapped by some, those who attend schools of higher learning face challenges presented to them such as: professors who are not objective but espouse various ideologies of the left or right. Professorial prejudices often place the young student in academic limbo, encouraged to choose their professors preferred political outlook.

Raised to be democratically inclined, our youth often witness the actions of our establishments, which can appear to be very undemocratic. Terms like “Do as we say, not as we do,” hypocritical actions by the administration and police often lead our youth an openness towards misguided ideologies and movements of purported social change.

Our youth are encouraged to insert themselves into local, national and international politics, only to be witness to the horrible events, misinformation and the manipulative nature of global media who present their own interpretation of said events. Media is in fact a business manipulated by corporate and politically friendly owners. So, how can our youth truly believe what is in fact real, truthful, honest and objectively presented?

Our youth will often develop a sense of “Stockholm Syndrome” like attitudes, actions and desires. Desire to change a society that is obviously unacceptable but have an attitude to accept no other message except that which is given by their governments and institutions.

Our youth find the idea of voting in a system that remains the same, changes nothing and has players who all look and act alike to be a waste of time and effort. There will always be bad guys, taxes, raising prices, and diminishing opportunities. One’s outlook can be deflated, filled with nervous tension and even fatalism. War, addiction, premature deaths, abortion, women rights, democracy while supporting and doing business with dictatorships.

To be young, means to create, grow and aspire to positive things. Our national and global experience is seen as the opposite of that approach. There is simply: too much going on, too many people being harmed, too little opportunity, too much misinformation, too much greed to allow our young to develop in a well-balanced, mentally positive manner.

Mental health concerns for not only the youth, but our own as adults challenge us to change our ways, assist each other with an: empathetic, charitable manner, open minds and hearts.

Our young people are our treasure and future hope. If they are screwed up, so too are our future expectations and future goals. We have to continue to work on getting it right.

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The Black Business and Professional Association (BBPA) scandal: Is there room for corrections and restoration?

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BY MICHAEL THOMAS

After over 40 years of upholding a legacy of integrity and excellence, accusations and allegations of mismanagement of public funds and conflict of interest have raised its ugly head at the Black Business and Professional Association (BBPA).

As I investigated the meat of information surrounding this case it is easy to see why many buzzards are circling this prey. One of the main allegations I have noticed is that BBPA management awarded contracts to companies controlled by the former President and CEO, Nadine Spencer, without appropriate due diligence. Again, if this turns out to be true, an organization that has been in business for four decades must have seen this coming.

If the rules of receiving the funds, or government grants say that you must put out tenders to hire workers, then by all means do so. We have to remember that bad news travels twice the speed of good news.

There is more; on November 5th, 2021, the BBPA’s President at the time, Nadine Spencer became the CEO where she was allegedly paid in the range of $250,000. This was used to make the comparison that a bigger organization was thriftier with their money than BBPA, here is how. As an example, the Executive Director of Tropicana Community Services, a much larger non-profit organization, earned a salary of $163,671 in 2023.

My job in this article is not to throw BBPA under the morality bus, but to shed a bit of light on how as a people we must realize that all eyes are on us. Something I quickly spot is how many mainstream media took the opportunity to jump at this alleged scandal in BBPA, yet, for over four years now Canada has been led off the cliff, and because these same mainstream media folks were paid and funded, they looked the other way.

Do I condone the misuse of public funds? Hell no! If these allegations are proven to be true, should BBPA be held accountable? Hell yes!

That said, I went to BBPA’s website to have a bird’s eye view of what this organization is all about, and after reading I must say I was impressed.

I am hoping that BBPA realizes that to whom much is given, much is required.  An organization that has kept such a sterling reputation over the last four decades need not look only in its rearview mirror, but in blind spots as well.

Misappropriation of funds is no laughing matter regardless of how big or small an organization is, nor is conflict of interest. These are tantamount to having blood stains on white garments. If proven there needs to be public apologies, and most importantly “a complete cleaning of the house.”

The Boards of Directors of the BBPA released a statement on Friday, April 26th, 2024, in response to the call for their resignation in the midst of the allegations of financial mismanagement. The statement was addressed to BBPA members/supporters. It states, “We want you to know that we have been listening to the concerns that have recently been raised. The BBPA has hired independent professionals to undertake the appropriate reviews. The current BBPA Board has and continues to proactively take steps to strengthen governance and compliance practices. We are all dedicated to learning, improving, and continuing to work together through this process. We, as Directors, also want you to know that you can reach out to us any time for a conversation.”

Now in the case of Mr. Harry Jerome’s daughter, when one engages in asking an organization that has upheld her father’s name for four decades to quit using the name. I would like to think that this individual has solid proof of wrongdoing, or if proven wrong is ready to apologize as well, but with all these wolves circling the wagon. I understand her plight.

Starting from a small gathering that honored just six Black Canadian athletes who excelled at that year’s Commonwealth Games in 1983, to an organization that built an endowment fund of close to $600,000, and in the last 24 years the fund has granted over 650 scholarships totaling close to 2.5 million dollars, BBPA has a lot to be proud of.

However, if these allegations are found to be false, I am hoping that the accusing parties will do the right thing and apologize. On the other hand, if BBPA is found to be in the wrong, then the organization should be wise enough to rock the boat and throw those found guilty of tarnishing BBPA’s and Mr. Harry Jerome’s good reputation completely overboard.

According to news sources, BBPA has categorically denied all allegations. Whichever way this cookie crumbles, BBPA, your decision should and must make your people, and the late sprinter Mr. Harry Jerome’s name and family proud.

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