BY SIMONE J. SMITH
“The answer for your life is in your questions.”
Carla Hemans
Now, I am not allowed to expose her age, but when this vivaciously, beautiful woman told me she had three grown children, I had to stop her mid-sentence.
“You’re kidding me, right?” I said once she gave me her age range.
“You are too sweet Simone!” Carla said laughing.
I am not sure how we became acquainted, but I have been a part of Carla’s Facebook group for a few months now. Her group is called Coach’s Corner – Shyness Prohibited. Now that I think about it, with a title like that, I would have joined her group just out of curiosity.
What I became intrigued with were the type of posts that I saw in her group. I noticed that Carla asked a lot of questions; questions that you don’t really think about asking yourself until you see them.
As I became more engaged, I saw more and more questions, which made me think, what does this woman do?
Carla Hemans will tell you that she has tried everything. She has been an administrative assistant, as well as a Licensed Paralegal. Throughout her career experiences, she always felt that something was missing. During my talk with Carla, she shared her experiences with me, and exactly what happened during her transition.
“Simone, I started coaching after years of going from job to job. I have a great husband, and three great children. From the outside, everything looked perfect. When I was analyzing my personal life, and the things I had, something didn’t seem right. I loved my husband, and I loved my children, but something was missing.
I felt that I was living for other people. I was working hard to please everyone but me. Eventually, it had to stop.
I was lying down one day; I believe it was the morning. I opened my eyes and it was so dark, like just before daybreak dark. It was like just before dawn, but when I checked the time, it was 9:00 am. I went to my doctor, and he began to ask me questions about my life, my career.
I told him what was going on in my life. He asked what type of stress I was dealing with. Whatever it was had caused what I was feeling. He recommended a life coach, and I started to see one.”
Carla wanted to have more of an impact in people’s lives, so she decided to pursue her coaching career in 2018. What she discovered was that she had a passion for helping people. She enjoyed working with people who struggled with moving past uncomfortable or painful events in their lives. After all, she had experienced some of these difficulties, so she could relate.”
“I began to question myself; what were my values? What is my purpose? I realized I was living a life that was not me. I started reading more. I read a lot of books that helped with my self-development. I started looking into my family dynamics. I began to learn why certain things were the way they were.
This is why I speak so much on self-reflection. I started some deep introspection, and I saw how powerful it was.
When COVID-19 hit, it was great. I was able to do more of what I wanted to do. Yes, I had started coaching in 2018, but I was only doing it on the weekend, and after work. I was also in school at the time, so I could not give it my all.”
Summary of U Inc. became official in 2020. Many of her clients know her company as Carla Helps, as the name change is recent.
“I think that my life has happened in the way it was supposed to happen. The only difference is now; I am intentional with my thinking.
Ten years ago, I wasn’t thinking this intentionally, so signs and symbols were not appearing to me. I invite things into my life now. I invite things that are beneficial to me. I ask myself questions; what can I do for me? We hold everyone else accountable for us. We use people as our reference point. We don’t know about them; we know about us. All we have to do is take the time to learn.”
During our discussion, I opened up to Carla about some changes that I was going through. It was amazing to observe how well she was able to ask the right questions to get me thinking.
“Now Simone,” Carla questioned, “What will happen if you stayed exactly where you are right now? Is there a point of you continuing, or should you stay where you are right now?
If that is not where you want to be, then tell me where you want to be. I want you to visualize it for me. When you can visualize everything, it works in your favour.
Take it a step forward, and ask yourself, what are the obstacles that could be in your way? The answer Simone for your life is in your questions.”
I wrote every question down, and without her knowing it; Carla had helped me question aspects of my life that if answered, would bring clarity.
That is the thing with a great life coach; they provide a foundation for great intrinsic motivation. A great coach will inspire you to try new things and make new discoveries.
When working with her clients, Carla ensures that she sets them up for success. Her clients walk away with their own book that includes their personal story. She offers pre-designed programs, as well as individual programs to meet her client’s needs.
“I took some time to create me, and in doing so, I discovered that life is a fantastic journey. Now I am here with the grace of God, and I’ve decided to dedicate my life to helping others.”
Even the best of us can hit a wall. We come to a point where we don’t know who we are or what we want. We doubt ourselves. We may have a clear vision but have no clue how to achieve. Sometimes we just need someone to hold us accountable. What seems impossible can become possible, and it is good to know that we have people like Carla in this world to help us out.
You can learn more about her by visiting https://www.carlahelpsnow.com/