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Sunnie McFadden-Curtis – Creating dialogue of healing for the community

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BY SIMONE J. SMITH

“My hope is that Broken Vows: Stories Of Separation, will create a dialogue of healing for its audience members. For those going through a separation themselves—moving through the darkness to the light–I hope they will share this documentary and The Resource as a conversation starter. I also hope they reach out for ’help’ when they need it.”  ~ Filmmaker & Social Advocate, Sunnie McFadden-Curtis ~

I was first introduced to this dynamic woman, when I received a press release about her multi-award-winning feature-length documentary BROKEN VOWS: Stories of Separation. This gripping and realistic documentary takes you into the lives of women, their personal stories, and tales of those caught in the crossfire of marriage breakdown and separation.

Anyone who has gone through a separation knows that it can be one of the most psychologically exhausting times in a woman’s life. There is often an expectation to make life-altering decisions under extreme duress. The pandemic has aggravated issues between couples due to: separation, isolation, from family and friends, loss of income, economic instability, disruption of regular routines, and imposed quarantines. This has forced individuals to stay home together, percolating conditions for marital chaos, domestic violence, and separation.

As a lifelong social advocate for women and children, Sunnie decided to take on this topic, and share the stories of women who have experienced BROKEN VOWS. This film follows the socially conscious producer’s previous projects: Bullying: A Culture of Silence, Cyber Bullying: Where Are We Going Wrong? & Shane r u there?

The filmmaker and her son Brennon were honoured to be invited to the United States Senate to take part in roundtable discussions on ways to make schools safer through anti-bullying education, and as a keynote speaker, McFadden-Curtis has also spoken internationally on anti-bullying, providing screenings of her powerful documentary, Bullying: A Culture of Silence.

Last week I had the honour of sitting down with Sunnie for a one-on-one discussion about her life as an actress, advocate and a filmmaker. She began by sharing with me a little bit about her early life.

“I was born and raised in Toronto. My father was from St. Louis and retired in California, My mom was English, Irish, and Scottish heritage. My father was a performer and was performing worldwide. He met my mom in Toronto, and he would come back to visit her whenever he could. It was actually during one of his visits that I was conceived. 

Life was very interesting. I was raised in Scarborough by my grandmother (mother’s mother), and it was predominately a White environment. I didn’t know the difference between White and Black. It wasn’t until later that I realized I was Black. I was confused, and I wasn’t in an environment to learn more about my Black heritage. To be honest, it really wasn’t spoken of. I was in High School when I began to learn more about my Black heritage. I would go back and forth between groups, but I wasn’t well received by the Black students. I was more about whom I clicked with. I was bullied because of this.”

Sunnie shares with me that her creative side emerged very young. “I began taking dance lessons when I was six. I invented a toy that was mass-produced (the ballerina swinger). My step grandfather was an inventor. I took a skipping rope after removing the ends, and pulled one end through the hole tide it and then tide the other side big enough to put my foot through it.

“No way!”  I exclaimed. “You invented that toy. I remember that toy very well.” I chuckled. “I also remember tripping and busting my lip playing with it.”

“I am so sorry to hear that,” Sunnie said. “I hope that at least you enjoyed playing with it. Okay, where was I? Yes! I was really interested in dancing. I don’t know how good I was, but I loved it. I would choreograph dances, and I would be part of the plays at the school. It was something that inherently I loved.”

She started acting in her mid-twenties, and it wasn’t easy then. There were not a lot of roles for Black girls, but the good thing was that Sunnie was self-motivated.

“I am not a quitter. It would get discouraging at times, but not enough to give up. Back then, you needed six credits to be part of the union, and they brought it down to three to give blacks a fare opportunity to become part of the union. I was modelling during this time, and that was going very well. I would get commercials, but I didn’t get really good roles until later.”

She had done a few movies of the week, and then she landed the role of the lifetime. “Only problem, there was no training for the role, Sunnie tells me. I got a phone call from my agent, and she told me the producer of “All my Children” was starting a show in Toronto. I said to my husband at the time, I am going to get this. I had a chance to visit the studio, and when I got in there and was looking around, something told me that I was going to get that part.

I had a chance to dialogue with the producer and it went really well. Within a week, I was traveling to Nevis (24 hours away), and this is when I found out that I got the part. I had to get back within 48 hours to do press. 48 hours later, I am heading to Antigua, and from there back to Toronto.

Interestingly enough, it was during a press release that Sunnie found out the name of her character.

“So, I was asked what my character’s name was, and I had no idea. I asked one of the writers, and they told me that my character’s name is Sunny. Playing the role of Sunny was difficult at first. During a break in scenes, I had to go back to the dressing room and pep talk myself. This was one of the highlights of my career and I loved it. When I started playing the role, I found out that I was pregnant, but this didn’t stop me. Since then, I have been in and out of acting for most of my life.”

Filmmaking started for Sunnie in 2003. It was part of the social advocacy that she was becoming a part of.

“My son was getting bullied, and as a parent, I was frustrated. I decided that I had to fill the void with education, so I sat down with my son and said, ‘How would you like to do a documentary on bullying?’ He took three days to answer, and he came back and said ‘Yes.’ I ended up taking the lead on the project, and it took me three years to complete it.”

The first film festival she entered the film in was the Reelworld Festival, and it won an award. When she completed the documentary and film festivals, she decided to develop a program and brought it into schools.

“What I loved during my time with students was when I would see the light bulb go off. It meant that something had clicked, and that was the whole point. The program was called “The Ripple Effect!” We looked at how bullying affected everyone involved in their lives. It was recognized by the school board and put in the registry. 

I went on that journey for some time and then I began to speak internationally on bullying. It reached 47 cities across North America in universities and libraries.” 

“Sunnie, what made you decide to focus on relationships for your current project?”

“Well, BROKEN VOWS: Stories of Separation, spawned from the experiences that my friends were having. Many separations are sequestered in the courts, and this can be extremely painful for those involved. I also went through a separation and had my own experience with it. There was nothing out there like this. I really thought that if I help women subsequently I help their children).

There were moments when I stepped away from the project. I must admit though, I am pretty good at separating myself, and compartmentalizing. The day I had to build my dramatization, I had to live some of what I experienced. I am proud of myself for getting through it. On the second day, I was very conscious not to make people feel uncomfortable, or uncomfortable for me. There were some difficult dramatizations that I had to recreate.

People need to know how to support women during a separation. The film is not just for women even though it is based on women’s stories. There is something in there for everybody.”

Committed to providing hope, McFadden-Curtis has created a digital resource BROKEN VOWS: Stories of Separation “The Resource” to the documentary, which offers real resources that she hopes will help women move forward after separation.

The digital Resource will address the gnawing question: When a marriage ends, where do you begin? BROKEN VOWS: The Resource will be available for purchase at: www.brokenvowsfilm.com  The resource can be purchased as individual volumes or in its entirety.

If you want to keep us with Sunnie on social media, you can find her on:

INSTAGRAM: @sunniebiz13

INSTAGRAM: @brokenvowsdocumentary

FACEBOOK: @smcfaddencurtis

FACEBOOK: @brokenvowsfilm

TWITTER: @stopthesilence

We, as humans are guaranteed certain things in life: stressors, taxes, bills and death are the first thoughts that pop to mind. It is not uncommon that many people find a hard time dealing with these daily life stressors, and at times will find themselves losing control over their lives. Simone Jennifer Smith’s great passion is using the gifts that have been given to her, to help educate her clients on how to live meaningful lives. The Hear to Help Team consists of powerfully motivated individuals, who like Simone, see that there is a need in this world; a need for real connection. As the founder and Director of Hear 2 Help, Simone leads a team that goes out into the community day to day, servicing families with their educational, legal and mental health needs.Her dedication shows in her Toronto Caribbean newspaper articles, and in her role as a host on the TCN TV Network.

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Karen Samuels Giving the community the courage to share their stories

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By Sydnee Walcott

While killing two birds with one stone is challenging for some, one woman is defying those odds. 

Karen Samuels moved to Canada from Jamaica at the age of three. At a young age, it wouldn’t have been easy for her to describe the transition from one country to another. However, as an adult, she now views the transition as confusing.

Samuels had these feelings, because she felt she was losing her two central male role models present in her life. These two role models were her father and her late grandfather. Although she moved to Canada with her grandmother, she moved in with her mother, who had left her when she was six months old. This change made her feel like she was losing her grandmother as well.

Samuels describes she felt pushed towards having a relationship with a woman who was supposed to be a mother to her. Unfortunately, Samuels’s mother was never a mother to her. She never felt any love from her, and the love disappeared the moment she met her.

Samuels became a victim of colorism and featurism at the hands of her mother, and it played a role in her struggles with mental health. She knew there was a mental health issue when she was eight. However, she didn’t fully realize it until she turned 46.

Anxiety was the first mental health issue Samuels experienced. She would forget where she was and what she was doing. From there, it led to confusion because she didn’t talk about her issues with anger, lack of self-love, wanting to be someone else, and thinking she wasn’t worthy enough – all of this because of the lack of a mother’s love.

Years of professional therapy and understanding that it’s normal to find help is how Samuels overcame her struggles with mental health. She also uses her passions to help deal with her mental health struggles: staying physically active, maintaining an organized space, and music are some of her passions, and the ability to self-reflect has become a life changer for her. Cleaning helps her declutter the negative thoughts she has in her head. Going to the gym helps her release feelings. The most important one will be for her to acknowledge a problem and what she can do to overcome it.

The biggest thing she has done as a mental health advocate was to put herself on a platform and showcase relatability. Through this, Samuels has shown that not everyone who suffers from mental issues has an addiction or is incapable of moving past it.

She did not have any advocacy for mental health when growing up, so Samuels advocates for individuals who are dealing with mental health challenges; something that she wished would have been done for her when she was growing up.

“I had a lot of misconceptions on what anything mental meant,” said Samuels. She said there would be a lot of negative labels and stigmas she did not want to be associated with, and upon realization that these misconceptions were false, Samuels put herself out there for others to be able to see that anything was possible, it just took working on yourself. 

“We can get through this together,” she said.

Within the Black community, there is a stigma surrounding mental health. Samuels’ advice is for people to acknowledge that if something does not feel right, to deal with the feelings that come with it. Acknowledging a problem shows courage and strength. The weakness is when one hides it and doesn’t get help.

As a mental health advocate, she enjoys giving someone the courage to share their story and relate to them. Samuels would like to do more public speaking on mental health in any setting for people of all ages. She is also in the process of piecing together her story to share with the community.

As someone who grew up in the Jane and Finch area, Samuels likes to give back and prove not everyone in the neighborhood is a criminal. Her fondest memory of being in the area was feeling a sense of community. Samuels misses how everyone knew each other and looked out for one another.

“The whole community was a family,” said Samuels, “It is not something that you witness anymore.”

Samuels would like to see the Jane and Finch community revert to how it was when she was a child.

She wants more recreational options for kids besides basketball and track and field for example: horseback riding, gymnastics, and skating. “Just something different from the norm for that neighborhood,” she said.

Samuels shared with me about the time that she lost everything and ended up at a woman’s shelter. There she met other women who experienced the same issues. They were in a situation where all they needed was some help. Despite the challenges, Samuels overcame her homelessness by accepting the help she needed. Her time in a women’s shelter is what inspired her to want to give back.

The first giveback happened in December 2021 at the Driftwood Community Centre. She raised $7,500 for: gift cards, food, and clothing. Last year’s giveback happened at the Jane and Finch Mall and raised over $12,000. Samuels also volunteers with: Seva Food Bank, Young Bosses in Business, and Peel and Toronto Police.

It is important that we as a community recognize the work of someone like Karen Samuels; it is heroines like her that keep our community together.

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Chibie Louis-Okoye – Unapologetically sharing the African experience

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By  Sydnee Walcott

In an industry where there are not too many people of colour, one empowered woman is taking the correct steps toward standing out. Chibie Louis-Okoye is a thought-provoking Nigerian Canadian film producer who has received many accolades throughout her career.

Born and raised in Nigeria, Louis-Okoye’s upbringing had its good and bad moments, but she was happy for the most part and provided with everything she needed. Her parents encouraged her and her siblings to go to school and take on a professional path that would lead to a career with a stable income and go on to have a family.

“My parents worked very hard to take us to the best schools they could take us to,” said Louis-Okoye, whose parents wanted both her and her siblings to become something great in the future. Louis-Okoye studied at the University of Windsor as an international student, where she received a Degree in Communication. Afterward, she went to Queen’s University, where she studied innovation and entrepreneurship.

Her inspiration to be a film producer came from wanting to take back the power to create worlds and stories that can influence pop culture and people’s perspectives on how they see things on subjects they don’t know. With a gap in the content of African stories, Louis-Okoye realized the industry needs producers and storytellers to help close the gap. “Producing is all about honing the business side of the creative,” said Louis-Okoye, whose goal is to centre the African diaspora on the world stage through her company COLO Studios.

What Louis-Okoye enjoys the most about producing is the transformation of raw ideas into materialized content.  Yes of course there are other elements of her work that she enjoys (hiring a team, and raising funds), but her heart remains with the creative process. She describes it as making a dream come true. “I believe a film is a tool for activism,” said Louis-Okoye. Activism, politics, spirituality, the monarchy, and the impact of colonialism are some of the thought-provoking content people can find in films and television series produced by Louis-Okoye.

Her latest film, KOFA, is inspired by how the world has moved on after kidnappings in Nigeria and surrounding areas. The film also focuses on how it remains precarious in Nigeria.  KOFA (Louis-Okoye’s favourite project to date) is a psychological thriller that deals with people being locked in a room and waking up nude with no memories.

From the beginning, the plot beckons the watcher to question every character, understand motive, and question what will happen next. With elements of betrayal and finger pointing the film keeps viewers intrigued as they watch the group try to figure out how they ended up where they were. Throughout their drama, a male character continuously enters the room and takes them out one by one. Scared for their lives, the group tries to piece together their memories.

Louis-Okoye loves those topics, because she feels the viewers can put themselves in the character’s shoes and feel their emotions and what’s at stake for them. She describes this as a human condition, because sometimes people may feel trapped. It may not feel like a physical trap in a room, but it can be a physical trap in a career they don’t love and are only doing for economic purposes. “People can feel trapped mentally as well.” Louis-Okoye shared.

KOFA won the Best Feature Film at the African International Film Festival, and received two African Magic Viewer Choice Awards nominations. The film’s trailer also received an award for the best trailer in the African region at the 2023 World Trailer Awards in Portugal.

Louis-Okoye’s current project is a television series called The Third Coming, and she’s having the time of her life on the project. The series centres around what can happen if colonialism and imperialism were to come back to Africa in the present and how that would look.

Louis-Okoye would like to see her career take her back to Africa, where she can continue to tell stories relatable to Africans and have the world look at things through that lens. She also wants to collaborate with others to help tell those stories and provide a technical process for creating a film and television series. She also wants to collaborate with the greats in Hollywood and take some of their lessons and experiences. Her dream is to have COLO Studios maintain its vision of centring the African experiences on the world stage.

As Africans living in the diaspora, we have a strong, and notable impact on this planet, and creatives like Louis-Okoye are the ones who will stamp our impact in the minds of people for generations to come.

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Trisha Smith Divine Essence, Healer and Mystic; Showing up as a better version of herself every day

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By Simone J Smith

What happened to her was a living nightmare. It’s something that no young woman should have to go through. 

As I listened to her story, I thought to myself, “She is so strong, so loving and passionate about life. If she had not told me this, I would never know.”

This is why we do it. This is why the team at Toronto Caribbean Newspaper decided over 10 years ago to share the stories of Caribbean women who have historically been marginalized and underrepresented in various forms of media, including literature, film, and television. By telling their stories, we can provide representation and visibility to a group that has often been excluded. It allows other Caribbean women to see themselves reflected in narratives and helps to challenge stereotypes and misconceptions.

This week I am happy to be sharing the story of one of our writers, a woman who I admire, and whom I strongly believe will continue to be a source of wisdom and health to the Caribbean community here in Toronto, and across the diaspora. 

Our Woman Empowered is a renowned healer, and possesses great knowledge, skills, training, experience, empathy and compassion. Her personal experience with pain has contributed to her development of empathy and understanding. By trade she is a wellness consultant, but by her soul’s decree, she is a Divine Essence, Healer and Mystic who has been charged with the task to empower, awaken and inspire those who are led to work with her. She takes a full-circle approach to healing, incorporating all aspects of health to restore not only the body, but mind and soul as well.

She offers a unique and diverse perspective that contributes to a comprehensive understanding of the human experience. Her story will inspire individuals to overcome challenges, pursue their dreams, and contribute to a positive change in our world. I would like to introduce our Woman Empowered, Trisha Smith.

“I was born and raised in Toronto and my family moved to Brampton when I was much younger. That is where I spent most of my early life. I lived with my mom and dad until I was five years old, and then my parents split up. My parents were two different energies. My mom was a Christian and my dad was more street, you know the Caribbean man; he loved his drink, he loved the street, and he loved his weed.

The split was difficult for me because from when I can remember, I was a daddy’s girl all the way. He favored me, spoiled me, and loved me. He was my everything. That was my daddy. When he left, it impacted me. We went from a six-bedroom house to a shelter with bunk beds. It was a total 360 for me. This is when life took a turn for the worse, and for a while, life didn’t make sense to me.

I will never forget the day when my mother and I returned from Jamaica, and when we came back the house was empty. My dad had sold the house and moved out. It was a very traumatic experience for me. Even at a young age, what was happening seemed off.

We were in the shelter for six months, and then moved into housing. From six until 16, I was in housing. I still saw my dad, but things were just different. I hated going to see him. Once I got older, we grew apart; I don’t know if I reminded him of her, but he became very miserable. Our visits were always him questioning me and my siblings about what my mom was doing, it wasn’t about us. 

I watched my mom slave; I saw how difficult it was for her. Even though I was younger I saw this. I hardly saw mom, and I only saw her when we were going to church. She was very protective over me; I couldn’t have a boyfriend, I couldn’t go out, I couldn’t do anything.”

Trisha’s life became very tumultuous; at a young age she began to feel intense emotional pain that left her longing for connection.

“My mom met someone, and she left us. Yep, she just got up and left, and this is when life went haywire; I started to do everything that I wasn’t supposed to do. I ended up living with my dad again, but that was short lived. One day he came to my room, threw a suitcase on the ground and told me that I was going to live in New York with my mother. I had five days to get my life together and just like that I was living in the Bronx. I finished up the 10th grade in New York.

My mom’s husband did not like me at all; I guess I disturbed their no-child home, so before I knew it, I was being sent back to Canada. I didn’t tell my dad I was coming back, instead I went to live with my sister. I think my mom felt bad, so she came back to give me some kind of stability, so I was with her after that.” 

Trisha was developing as a woman, and her feeling of abandonment triggered a deep sense of rejection. She began to feel unworthy, unimportant by the people who were supposed to love her, and this led to self-doubt and diminished self-esteem. It also made her vulnerable to predators.

“I met a Rasta, and he changed my life. I was young and foolish, and I got caught up in him. Next thing I knew I was pregnant, and this man started to beat me. The abuse got worse, and Children’s Aid got involved. It was terrible. I was getting beaten twice a week. My mom actually caught him beating me, and she called the police. He finally got deported. 

Life was rough during that time, but it was the genesis of my healing journey. I attended Dominion Herbal College when I was with him. I became a vegetarian and got extremely sick, which led to me discovering the miracle of herbs. I wanted to learn more about my body, so I went to the Canadian School of Natural Medicine and graduated as a nutritionist. I found passion in holistic medicine.

One day my friend invited me to a fire ritual, and this is when everything changed. I learned about my ancestors, how to interact with nature, and learned about the elements. It opened up my eyes to more. I started to get more into African spirituality, and healing. When I met Malidoma, he taught me how to have a more intimate relationship with nature and then I began creating my own concoctions. This is how Adero Herbals was born. I vended all over the city for 10 years, conducted workshops and helped many women through my nutritional consultations.” 

Her second evolution was in Las Vegas when she went to a workshop seminar led by Dr Mitchell Gibson, and his wife Kathy Gibson (Solar Rejuvenation). 

“He gave us practices that involved rituals around the sun. He spoke about evolution, the soul, the spirit, and how we interact with the spirit world. It was level up for me. I came home and I couldn’t do the rituals, and this upset me. I wanted a way out of the life that I had created. I stopped smoking weed and began to focus on my healing.

I decided to go back to school. I went to Humber College and got my Marketing Diploma, and I started writing. I had always been a writer; it was in me. I started sharing stories in Reggae Exclusive, and other publications. I revamped my business to Sakred Synergi and introduced a new line of tonics and began doing guided meditations and writing eBooks all centered around mental health and women’s health. I am proud to say that I also got my certifications in Reiki and Life Coaching. 

My healing journey is still a process and has me working on a shadow work course where I will teach women in a step by step process how to heal from trauma and pain. 

I love water in all its forms, deep walks off the trail in the forest, metaphysics, jazz and reggae music, clubs and comedy. Yes! This Gemini embraces her dual nature, and I am always down for adventure and trying new things! Drag racing is next on my list!

My four children keep me on my toes and challenge me to show up as a better version of myself every day.” 

http://www.sakredsynergi.com/

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