BY SIMONE J. SMITH
She was pronounced dead at birth. The umbilical cord was wrapped around her neck three times. A missionary out of the hospital prayed for her to live, and the little girl began to breathe. That missionary’s name was Brenda, so the parents decided to name the beautiful girl after the woman who brought her back to life.
Her first name Adoch means leg first, and from her entrance into the world, our Woman Empowered has had to face incredible odds.
When you first encounter Adoch, you can’t help but to be first blown away by her physical beauty. She exudes an undeniable aura of elegance and grace. Her stature, towering with confidence, commands attention and admiration in any room she enters. Her skin, a rich and radiant shade of ebony, glows with a natural beauty that seems to capture the essence of the night sky itself.
Her eyes, deep and expressive, hold a captivating blend of strength and warmth. They glisten with intelligence and resilience, revealing a lifetime of experiences and wisdom. Long, dark eyelashes frame her eyes, drawing you in with every gaze.
Her smile, radiant and infectious, lights up her face and the entire space around her. Her lips, full and inviting, curve gently to reveal a set of pearly white teeth. When she laughs, it’s as if the world becomes a brighter and more joyful place.
She has a strong sense of connection to a higher power, a divine presence. She seeks inner peace and strives to maintain a sense of calm and balance in her life. She demonstrates compassion and empathy towards others, and she is motivated by a desire to help those in need and make the world a better place. She remains on her journey of self-discovery and personal growth, and as she explores her inner self, confronts her fears, and works to overcome personal challenges, she becomes more aware of the interconnectedness of the mind, body, and spirit.
I first met Adoch Brenda Acemah at the Face of African Fashion Week competition in March. Upon seeing her, I was truly blown away. There was just something about her. We continued to run into each other at events, and finally we ended up connecting. Once we got talking, I knew that I wanted to be the one to tell her story.
“I was born and raised in Uganda, Kampala (East Africa), and I have lived through four wars. My family fled when the current president came into power, and we stayed in Kenya for one year waiting to get our papers.
I was 10 years old when I came to Canada. I had to adjust to the cold weather, and I remember being bullied in school, because I was African and dark skinned. I was called names like tar baby, and I was very chubby as a child. I think it was in grade seven and eight, I went from being chubby to tall and thin. My memories are of me eating lunch in the bathroom because I was so shy.”
She never truly felt comfortable in her skin, and this only changed when she moved to Markham.
“I was going into grade 10 when I moved to Markham. My cousins went to the school, so they took care of me.
After high school, I didn’t feel like I had a voice. In order for me to deal with my pain, I became a workaholic. In 2006 I was working four jobs at the same time, just so I wouldn’t have to feel. At the age of 26 I had a stroke. I call it the stroke of life. It was a miserable time for me. I was bedridden for two years, and this allowed me to feel, and brought me the relationship that I have with God. I had been asking for a special relationship, to feel connected, but I never gave myself time to do that.
They wanted to diagnose me with multiple sclerosis, because I had lesions in my brain. I had a friend who told me to get a second opinion, and the next set of doctors told me the same thing. They told me they would have to do a biopsy.”
She decided for her birthday that year, she wanted to feel alive. So, in 2007, she booked a plane to Miami, and she sat on a beach, meditated and prayed for 10 days.
“I came back to Canada, released all of my stuff, and moved to Miami in 2008. I went trusting God.
The time in Miami was challenging. It was the hardest decision that I made, but I had to leave Canada; I needed that change. When it got to the point where I couldn’t handle it anymore, I met three people, who did not know each other who told me about this lady who had Bible study in her house. The meeting was called “Thankful Thursday.” In her words it was “Church for the unchurched, and church for the unusual.” A space was created where we could share our challenges, and our success. After going there for six months, this woman adopted me as her God daughter. This woman was pure love.
There was a lot going on, I actually got evicted from my house, and this same woman (my adopted Godmother) took me in. She helped me get back into school. She was an artist, and she was the one who encouraged my creative side. She got me back into modeling. It was such a powerful experience. It was because of her that I started going by the name Adoch. When I lived in Canada, I had gone by my middle name Brenda, but my godmother told me to use Adoch for my modeling. ‘That’s your power.’ I started using it in 2010.”
Their relationship hit a speedbump, and Adoch ended up moving to New York.
“I was miserable in New York; it was definitely not Miami, but it is when life took another turn for me. It was where I started my head wrapping business.
I used to visit a fabric store and I remember that I would just lay on the fabric. I started using pieces to wrap my hair, and people used to compliment me all the time. This drove sales up for the store, and the owner gave me some fabric and said, ‘Go start a head wrapping business,’ so I did. There I was vending in Harlem.
My creative side is genetic. Everyone in my family is creative in their own way. I have a cousin in England who is a model, an uncle who is a singer, a cousin who is a seamstress, it is in the blood. It made sense that my creative side eventually started to shine through.
I ended up going back to Florida, and while I was still modeling, I remember meeting three different people again who told me that I should write, but I couldn’t quiet my mind to journal. They suggested I write three things that I was grateful for each day. This changed my life. When you are not focusing on the negative, things look different.”
This became the foundation of her journals. Churches and schools started to approach her about speaking, and her 3, 3, 3, 1 writing technique. Each day she empowers people to write and execute:
- 3 things for yourself (self-love)
- 3 things for other people (community) (check on a friend, gift a notebook)
- 3 things for your passion (business)
- 1 miscellaneous
“It helps the three major areas of your life. I am very intentional about my day, so I use the 3,3,3,1 technique. This is how “The Soulful Thought Collection” came to life. I tell people to give a journal to a friend, or young person, and hold them accountable. “Let’s be intentional” and “Let’s Wrap” are courses that I offer that plant seeds of healing in people’s lives. I want to share tools that have helped me throughout my challenges.”
Beyond her physical attributes, what truly makes Adoch beautiful is her spirit. She radiates strength, resilience, and a sense of purpose. She embodies a deep sense of self-love and self-assuredness that inspires those around her. Her intelligence, kindness, and authenticity shine through, making her not only a stunning presence but also a beautiful soul. So happy that I met you in this lifetime.