Connect with us

Women Empowered

Carlene Sandy; Daley In control of my sexuality

Published

on

BY SIMONE J. SMITH

“So, I have written a book called, Whose Vagina Is It, Really?” I burst out laughing because the sentence completely threw me off. This comment was made during my live interview with a stunningly, articulate director writer, and producer at the opening of the Caribbean Tales Film Festival. After that interview I contacted her because I wanted to learn more about this tenacious, energetic soul, who seemed to have no filter and had found a way to tell her story unapologetically. I would like to take this time to introduce to the Toronto Caribbean Newspaper readers, the prolific, and fascinating Carlene Sandy Daley.

“Find your passion, stick with it, stay focused and have patience with yourself.” ~Sandy Daley

From a very young age, Sandy Daley has had a fascination with words. During our interview, Sandy speaks about the fact that her family had seen something in her, and had fostered what they saw, “If you were looking for me, you would find me with my face buried in a book, or writing away, creating stories from my imagination. My family wouldn’t force me to do any housework, they would just sit me on blanket on the grass, and leave me there with my books, my pencil, and my thoughts.”

Her creative mind, love for literature, and zest for life has been the foundation for the well-established career that Sandy has created for herself. Alongside writing, Sandy also realized that she had a passion for acting as well. She followed this passion, and in her first audition, Sandy scored the lead role in Christen Brown’s feature film, “Another Planet” which is the story about a young black woman from Toronto, who explores and discovers her African roots on a Quebec farm. This opportunity opened Sandy up to other acting ventures, which includes appearing in numerous music videos, and lead roles in small college productions. Her versatility was on display when she played a 60-year-old woman in “The Sweetest Thing” and she was blessed with the chance to perform at the Living in the City Theatre, as well as the Far Side Theatre in Jamaica. Sandy didn’t stop there; she became a co-host on a show called “Word” a youth-oriented cable program, and from there she became a favoured guest on many talk and radio programs. What makes her a considerable talent is her candid stance on topics presented to her and her vibrant nature.

“I write about issues that bother me because who can afford a psychologist, Really?”

 Never forgetting her love for writing, Sandy dove right back into storytelling, except this time, she began to speak about her real-life experiences. During her time in New York City, Sandy began her column “Real Talk with Sandy” which was featured in Street Hype Newspaper. It became one of the most talked about and well-read columns in the newspaper, so much that it was picked up in “Pride News Magazine” which is published in Toronto, Canada. The right people began to take notice of Sandy’s work, and she was the recipient of the Spirit Award for favourite columnist in 2009, at Citi Fields in New York City. What is loved about Sandy is her ability to tackle issues surrounding love, relationships and sex, in a humorous, and in your face kind of way. It came to the point that everyone was looking forward to her weekly adventures as a single woman, and this brought her to one of her biggest accomplishments to date.

Whose Vagina Is It, Really? has turned out to be one of her proudest achievements, and she has dedicated it to all single and married women as it details the lives of women and how they deal with their sexuality living in the modern world. It did very well in Jamaica selling over 800 copies, and she is in the pre-production phase of a television series based of her book. “There are many times in my life that I feel like I am spinning in circles, but I am woman enough to admit this, and writing this book has allowed me to take control of my sexuality,” Sandy told me, “On New Years Eve when everyone was out partying, I was putting together my vision board, and on this board was my goal to work with Netflix. Low and behold, I am in talks with Netflix about turning this book into an actual series, and I am currently working on Whose Vagina Is It Really? the uncensored version, so keep an eye out for that as well.”

Sandy’s most recently has become involved in the filmmaking, and screenwriting industry, and the culmination of all her work can be seen in her film Daddy’s Not Around, which was selected to be included in the CineFAM micro cinema challenge. Sandy and her small crew were required to create a short film using unconventional film-making techniques, using cell phones, GoPros, tablets, and other low-budget equipment. “Our crew looked like the United Colours of Benetton,” Sandy remarks, “It was mostly a female crew, but I had one of my favourite actors Shamba Amani as my co-star, and my amazingly talented son Nathaniel Daley who stole the spotlight. I am very proud of him.”

Daddy’s Not Around examines the impact of a fatherless home on the black community; colonialism has had an impact on the black community, especially the black men. This film focuses on the unconscious thoughts and behaviours that are carried out in the Afro-Caribbean community, and how these behaviours are continuing to affect us as a people.

Sandy Daley is a light that continues to illuminate a world that at times seems dark, and desolate. Keep up the good work young lady and know that your community continues to support you.

We, as humans are guaranteed certain things in life: stressors, taxes, bills and death are the first thoughts that pop to mind. It is not uncommon that many people find a hard time dealing with these daily life stressors, and at times will find themselves losing control over their lives. Simone Jennifer Smith’s great passion is using the gifts that have been given to her, to help educate her clients on how to live meaningful lives. The Hear to Help Team consists of powerfully motivated individuals, who like Simone, see that there is a need in this world; a need for real connection. As the founder and Director of Hear 2 Help, Simone leads a team that goes out into the community day to day, servicing families with their educational, legal and mental health needs.Her dedication shows in her Toronto Caribbean newspaper articles, and in her role as a host on the TCN TV Network.

Continue Reading
Advertisement
Click to comment

Leave a Reply

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *

Women Empowered

Sarah Terrill Gracious, creative, and inspirational

Published

on

BY SIMONE J. SMITH

“With each tear, there is a lesson…”

It was a splendid and enchanting event that combined the appreciation of visual arts with the sophistication of a formal celebration. It was a night of elegance, culture, and creativity that brought together artists, collectors, enthusiasts, and patrons of the arts.

On Saturday, September 23rd, 2023, Toronto Caribbean Newspaper was invited to BLUFFERS Restaurant & Event Centre. I must say, the choice of location set the tone for the entire evening. The Night of Abstracts Art Show & Gala Event was an extraordinary occasion that showcased the exceptional work of Sarah Terrill, a local, Guyanese born, self-taught abstract artist whose art pieces evoke emotions of hope, resilience, and transformation. With three collective showcases featuring 15 mesmerizing abstract art pieces, attendees were immersed in a world of artistic expression.

Guests were welcomed by Sarah’s amazing team. I had a chance to meet Rose Nixon (Sarah Terrill’s Marketing Manager), who instantly created an atmosphere of sophistication and anticipation. Attendees had the opportunity to mingle, discuss art, and get to know Sarah.

After a period of mingling and art appreciation, I sat down with other guests at beautifully decorated tables. A gourmet meal was served, accompanied by fine wines and cocktails, creating a sumptuous dining experience. The centerpiece of the show, of course, was the art itself. The room was adorned with a diverse range of Sarah’s artwork. The pieces on display often varied in style, medium, and subject matter, showcasing the talent and diversity of Ms. Terrill. Each piece was carefully curated and lit to accentuate its beauty.

Sarah greeted me warmly when I came into the room, and she remained present to discuss her creations, share her inspirations, and answer questions from the attendees. This personal interaction between Sarah and her guests was the highlight of the event.

Overall, The Night of Abstracts Art Show & Gala Event was a captivating fusion of creativity and sophistication, where art took center stage, and attendees had the opportunity to immerse themselves in a world of beauty, culture, and inspiration. It was a celebration of artistic expression and a night to remember for all who attended.

I managed to sneak in some time to speak with Sarah, and what I learned from her is what made her a primary candidate for the Woman Empowered Feature.

“I was born in Georgetown, Guyana. I came to Canada with my grandparents when I was about six years old. My mom had received an opportunity to work in New York, and my grandmother told my mom to leave me with her. We would go back and forth to visit my mom in New York, but from an early age, most of my life was spent with my grandparents.

There was a lot of love in the house; growing up, kids would ask me where my mom was. I always had to explain that she was away at work, and I don’t think they got it, but it was okay. I had a great childhood; my grandmother was strict and loving. I was raised in Flemingdon Park and left there when I was 27 years old. I was a single mom at 18 years old, but I didn’t let that stop me. I went back to school in 1998, and I took an esthetician course. I realized that it was not where I wanted to be.

I met my husband when I was 24 years old, and we got married in 1996. It was not a good relationship; it was toxic and abusive. We had a daughter together, and it was a very hard time for me. It was during this time that I started painting in my basement. One of my friends came over and saw my work. She was like, “This is very good.”  I was shocked that she had found my work any good. I had always had this creative side to me, but life had deterred me a little. I realized at that moment that I had lost who I was during my life.”

“Sarah,” I asked. “What would you say was the genesis of your artistic evolution?”

“I remember the night clearly,” she recalls. “I was dealing with a lot of verbal abuse; I was told that I was nothing, and that I was going to amount to nothing. He had left to go away with his friends, and I had the house to myself. My release came that night. I was doing abstract, flower paintings. There was one painting that I did that had the silhouette of a woman, and she looked so sad.”

During my discussion with Sarah, I learned that abstract art does not attempt to depict the physical world or recognizable objects. Instead, it focuses on shapes, colors, lines, and forms that are divorced from direct representation. This departure from realism is a key feature that sets it apart from other forms of art.

“I see the designs in my head, but when I paint, it comes out differently,” Sarah shared with me.

Sarah’s art prioritizes the expression of emotions, ideas, or concepts over the depiction of physical objects. She uses color, form, and composition to convey feelings, moods, and abstract concepts, allowing for a more personal and subjective interpretation by viewers. I remember when I was looking at her work how actively engaged I was; I was able to use my imagination to interpret and derive meaning from them. This interactive aspect led to a more personal and subjective connection between myself and the artwork.

Sarah did her first art show in 2009. “It was a Sunday afternoon, and the feedback was so amazing.

In 2010, I left my husband and moved back in with my mom. I was in a whirlwind, and I turned to art again. I talked to my co-worker about doing a show, and I received such positive encouragement. I did it at Yonge and Eglington; we had a red carpet, photography, the works.  I sold 85% of my paintings that night. This is when I knew that I could do it. 2010 was when I said to myself, I can turn my artwork into a business. I have never looked back.

I was raised that you have to forgive; forgiveness is key. I forgave my ex-husband because it was him that brought the artist back out. My journey hasn’t been easy, but I am thankful.”

Sarah is dedicated to making a positive impact on her community; therefore, an integral part of the event was the fundraising initiative in which a portion of all art sales were donated to a local non-profit organization. Sarah has designated Julliette’s Place, a local shelter and refuge for abused women and children, as the benefactor of the proceeds.

Gracious, creative, inspirational; Sarah Terrill, I salute you!

Continue Reading

Women Empowered

Adoch B Acemah Living her life intentionally

Published

on

BY SIMONE J. SMITH

She was pronounced dead at birth. The umbilical cord was wrapped around her neck three times. A missionary out of the hospital prayed for her to live, and the little girl began to breathe. That missionary’s name was Brenda, so the parents decided to name the beautiful girl after the woman who brought her back to life.

Her first name Adoch means leg first, and from her entrance into the world, our Woman Empowered has had to face incredible odds.

When you first encounter Adoch, you can’t help but to be first blown away by her physical beauty. She exudes an undeniable aura of elegance and grace. Her stature, towering with confidence, commands attention and admiration in any room she enters. Her skin, a rich and radiant shade of ebony, glows with a natural beauty that seems to capture the essence of the night sky itself.

Her eyes, deep and expressive, hold a captivating blend of strength and warmth. They glisten with intelligence and resilience, revealing a lifetime of experiences and wisdom. Long, dark eyelashes frame her eyes, drawing you in with every gaze.

Her smile, radiant and infectious, lights up her face and the entire space around her. Her lips, full and inviting, curve gently to reveal a set of pearly white teeth. When she laughs, it’s as if the world becomes a brighter and more joyful place.

She has a strong sense of connection to a higher power, a divine presence. She seeks inner peace and strives to maintain a sense of calm and balance in her life. She demonstrates compassion and empathy towards others, and she is motivated by a desire to help those in need and make the world a better place. She remains on her journey of self-discovery and personal growth, and as she explores her inner self, confronts her fears, and works to overcome personal challenges, she becomes more aware of the interconnectedness of the mind, body, and spirit.

I first met Adoch Brenda Acemah at the Face of African Fashion Week competition in March. Upon seeing her, I was truly blown away. There was just something about her. We continued to run into each other at events, and finally we ended up connecting. Once we got talking, I knew that I wanted to be the one to tell her story.

“I was born and raised in Uganda, Kampala (East Africa), and I have lived through four wars. My family fled when the current president came into power, and we stayed in Kenya for one year waiting to get our papers.

I was 10 years old when I came to Canada. I had to adjust to the cold weather, and I remember being bullied in school, because I was African and dark skinned. I was called names like tar baby, and I was very chubby as a child. I think it was in grade seven and eight, I went from being chubby to tall and thin. My memories are of me eating lunch in the bathroom because I was so shy.”

She never truly felt comfortable in her skin, and this only changed when she moved to Markham.

“I was going into grade 10 when I moved to Markham. My cousins went to the school, so they took care of me.

After high school, I didn’t feel like I had a voice. In order for me to deal with my pain, I became a workaholic. In 2006 I was working four jobs at the same time, just so I wouldn’t have to feel. At the age of 26 I had a stroke. I call it the stroke of life. It was a miserable time for me. I was bedridden for two years, and this allowed me to feel, and brought me the relationship that I have with God. I had been asking for a special relationship, to feel connected, but I never gave myself time to do that.

They wanted to diagnose me with multiple sclerosis, because I had lesions in my brain. I had a friend who told me to get a second opinion, and the next set of doctors told me the same thing. They told me they would have to do a biopsy.”

She decided for her birthday that year, she wanted to feel alive. So, in 2007, she booked a plane to Miami, and she sat on a beach, meditated and prayed for 10 days.

“I came back to Canada, released all of my stuff, and moved to Miami in 2008. I went trusting God.

The time in Miami was challenging. It was the hardest decision that I made, but I had to leave Canada; I needed that change. When it got to the point where I couldn’t handle it anymore, I met three people, who did not know each other who told me about this lady who had Bible study in her house. The meeting was called “Thankful Thursday.” In her words it was “Church for the unchurched, and church for the unusual.” A space was created where we could share our challenges, and our success. After going there for six months, this woman adopted me as her God daughter. This woman was pure love.

There was a lot going on, I actually got evicted from my house, and this same woman (my adopted Godmother) took me in. She helped me get back into school. She was an artist, and she was the one who encouraged my creative side. She got me back into modeling. It was such a powerful experience. It was because of her that I started going by the name Adoch. When I lived in Canada, I had gone by my middle name Brenda, but my godmother told me to use Adoch for my modeling. ‘That’s your power.’ I started using it in 2010.”

Their relationship hit a speedbump, and Adoch ended up moving to New York.

“I was miserable in New York; it was definitely not Miami, but it is when life took another turn for me. It was where I started my head wrapping business.

I used to visit a fabric store and I remember that I would just lay on the fabric. I started using pieces to wrap my hair, and people used to compliment me all the time. This drove sales up for the store, and the owner gave me some fabric and said, ‘Go start a head wrapping business,’ so I did. There I was vending in Harlem.

My creative side is genetic. Everyone in my family is creative in their own way. I have a cousin in England who is a model, an uncle who is a singer, a cousin who is a seamstress, it is in the blood. It made sense that my creative side eventually started to shine through.

I ended up going back to Florida, and while I was still modeling, I remember meeting three different people again who told me that I should write, but I couldn’t quiet my mind to journal. They suggested I write three things that I was grateful for each day. This changed my life. When you are not focusing on the negative, things look different.”

This became the foundation of her journals. Churches and schools started to approach her about speaking, and her 3, 3, 3, 1 writing technique. Each day she empowers people to write and execute:

  • 3 things for yourself (self-love)
  • 3 things for other people (community) (check on a friend, gift a notebook)
  • 3 things for your passion (business)
  • 1 miscellaneous

“It helps the three major areas of your life. I am very intentional about my day, so I use the 3,3,3,1 technique. This is how “The Soulful Thought Collection” came to life. I tell people to give a journal to a friend, or young person, and hold them accountable. “Let’s be intentional” and “Let’s Wrap” are courses that I offer that plant seeds of healing in people’s lives. I want to share tools that have helped me throughout my challenges.”

Beyond her physical attributes, what truly makes Adoch beautiful is her spirit. She radiates strength, resilience, and a sense of purpose. She embodies a deep sense of self-love and self-assuredness that inspires those around her. Her intelligence, kindness, and authenticity shine through, making her not only a stunning presence but also a beautiful soul. So happy that I met you in this lifetime.

Continue Reading

Women Empowered

Kellaray Miles Trusting God’s Plan

Published

on

BY SIMONE J. SMITH

“I am calling companies, reviewing the Jamaica Stock Exchange, keeping an eye on what is happening throughout the day, rushing to get the story so that I keep the community up to date. You have to be on top of things.”

I am always excited to hear stories from young journalists. It’s a field that is wide open, with many avenues and opportunities for careers in print journalism, broadcasting, and online journalism. These young people are interested in telling stories about people and the problems they are in, sometimes-complex stories that society is not ready to hear about.

While there may be a lack of Black Caribbean female journalists in some media outlets, it is important to acknowledge that there are indeed talented and accomplished individuals in this field. Representation is an ongoing issue in many industries, including journalism, and this is why it is important to amplify their voices and advocate for greater diversity and representation in the media industry.

From Yamiche Alcindor to Soledad O’Brien there are undoubtedly talented Black Caribbean female journalists who are making significant contributions to the field, and I am elated to be at the genesis of another journalistic powerhouse.

I had the opportunity to work alongside our Woman Empowered just a couple weeks ago at the 53rd Annual Meeting of the Board of Governors of the Caribbean Development Bank in St. Lucia. She was brought to the island to collect and analyse information concerning newsworthy events within the world of finance and commerce. Her day typically involved digging up and deciphering key documents and data. Her ultimate responsibility is to provide accurate, actionable advice for readers in Jamaica.

Kellaray Miles was born in St. Catherine, Jamaica. The parish of St. Catherine is located on the south coast between the parishes of St. Andrew to the east, Clarendon to the west, and St. Ann and St. Mary to the north.  

“It is a rural community, very picturesque,” Kellaray shares with me. “I grew up in an extended family, and I am the only child for my mom. Even though I was an only child, I didn’t feel like it, and my mom made sure of that. I had the presence of my cousins; we shared everything and did everything together. I have to admit, I was a spoiled child; my mom gave me everything.”

Kellaray’s early childhood education began at Sligoville Basic School, and she went to complete primary school at Dunrobin Primary.

“It was in Primary school that I noticed my talents; I realized right away that I didn’t like numbers, I preferred words. I loved to write stories and I really enjoyed comprehension and composition.

Teachers were always giving me the chance to use my imagination; my mom noticed that I had a talent. She was always impressed with the marks that I received in English, and teachers had a lot to say about my writing.”

She attended Wolmer’s High School for girls (2002 – 2009), and received a CXC Associate Degree in Humanities. Kellaray then went onto University of the West Indies (2009 – 2014), where she graduated with a MSc. in Government (Public Sector Management/Comparative Politics), and a BSc. in Political Science (Major) with a Minor, with Honours in International Relations.

“I think another aspect of my upbringing that made my writing skills so strong was that I always had a lot of books. Nancy Drew was one of my favourite series. I always wanted to be in the know so I was always reading, reading, reading.

My writing was on a linear path; I was convinced that I was going to be an attorney, so I kept reading and writing. I didn’t really journal, but I enjoyed writing.”

Plans are great because they help you make decisions about what to do, or not do, in order to help achieve your goals. Like any plan, though, unexpected changes can occur that either help or hinder your life goal achievement. So was the case with Kellaray.

“Journalism wasn’t really by choice, I just ended up here. I was doing really well in school, and my marks were good enough to get me into law school. When the time came for me to accept, I had to come to a tough realization; the finances were way too much, so I decided to get more so in political science.

One of my friends in high school was working at the Jamaica Observer at that time. In Jamaica, if you don’t have connections it can be difficult to land a job, especially when you get out of school. She was working there as a proof-reader, and she was always commenting on my brightness. She asked if I was interested in coming to work there. Ummm, Yes!”

In the early 90’s Jamaica had developed the dubious reputation as a cemetery for failed newspapers. Up and coming newspapers had failed to adapt to changing reader preferences, and struggled to retain and attract new audiences. Producing and distributing a print newspaper involves significant costs, such as printing, paper, and distribution expenses. If revenues declined and operating costs remained high, newspapers would find it challenging to sustain their operations and make a profit.

It was against that intimidating, foreboding background that Butch Stewart teamed up with banker Delroy Lindsay and Trinidadian media mogul Ken Gordon in 1992 to establish the Jamaica Observer, which hit the streets on March 7th, 1993.

For Butch, Jamaica was too sophisticated and dynamic to be a “one-newspaper society”. To him, the Observer was a gift to Jamaica. It was about producing a different type of journalism that was focused on mirroring the best of Jamaicans to themselves and to celebrate the daily heroism of the ordinary people. Their success is due to the production of high-quality and reliable journalism. This includes: accurate reporting, in-depth research, thorough fact checking, and maintaining high ethical standards. They consistently deliver trustworthy news, which has gained them credibility and has attracted a loyal readership. Now, Kellaray was about to become a part of this legacy.

“When I went in for the interview, the interviewer loved me. As a test, he gave me a financial reporter on a resort, and he asked me to write a small story. I wrote something, and he was like, ‘Good, Good!

Like that it started for me. I was told that there was a financial writer position opening up, and I seized the opportunity. It takes a certain skill set to be an effective financial journalist; skills that can be developed in journalism and/or business school, while gaining work experience, or through independent learning. I didn’t necessarily come into this position with all the skills needed, but I have worked on it, and challenging myself has made me a more proficient writer.”

Kellaray shared the lessons she has learned as a financial journalist. “You have to make numbers your friend: It’s important to get a good sense of the scale of numbers. You also have to understand the relationships between numbers: It’s vital for financial journalists to understand what growth rates are, what inflation rates are, and how financial data is measured.

I have become proficient at spotting trends versus random fluctuations: Good financial journalists can tell the difference between a legitimate pattern, and random fluctuations in financial data, and I pay attention to details: When looking at the reports of big, complex companies, I now have the ability to read the accounts in more detail to find out what’s really going. I also had to learn how to use proper terminology: as a financial journalist I have to be aware of what emotion could be attached to a particular word.

I think it was God’s plan for me not to get into law. I force myself to remember that my start does not determine my finish. If I could share a message with young women, I would say when you get an opportunity, go after it because you never really know what will happen. Even though I am a financial journalist, I have the opportunity and freedom to write what I need.

The inspiration that journalists and their work can give to others can help to change the world, and I am happy to be a part of that.” 

Continue Reading

Trending