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Brandon Hay – Changing the image of the black father

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BY SIMONE J. SMITH

“The question I was asking myself was what could we do about this? What is the solution? What can we do? So, in 2007, I created the Black Daddies Club, a movement built on love.”

I don’t know if it was the title of some of his panel discussions that caught me, but upon doing some more research, I knew who I wanted my year-end Classic Man to be.

He has facilitated controversial, yet popular discussion series including: “Queer as Black Folk,” and “Monogamy isn’t relevant.” He has also taken on the task of helping black fathers care about fatherhood. In doing so, he feels it will help them stay focused on higher goals, like keeping their kids from repeating the cycle.

He has developed a continuous support system for black men and fathers to share their challenges and/or experiences, all the while working with the community at large to address issues that African families face living in the northern diaspora. He works with the media to provide more positive images of black fathers, and 2020 is a powerful year for him.

The Black Daddies Club is celebrating its 14th year anniversary, with the start-up of another dynamic series, Sunday Dinners, a monthly virtual conversation with black men from around North America, and other continents. During these virtual sessions, men have a chance to speak to blackness, masculinity, as well as to where they are currently emotionally and mentally.

I would like to present to the community, our final Classic Man of the year and the founder of The Black Daddies Club, the dynamic daddy, Brandon Hay!

“My father, and myself had a traditional or what I see more I thought was traditional relationship, which was, it wasn’t consistent.”

Within minutes of speaking with Brandon, I knew that I was speaking to a man who had felt pain. He recalls his youth in fine detail, and for the hour that I was speaking with him, I learned just why he is so passionate about being a father.

“I was one of seven children,” Brandon began. “I saw my dad, but it wasn’t consistent. He tried the best that he could. There were times he was supposed to pick me up and it wouldn’t happen. I came to Canada when I was ten-years-old, and went back when I was sixteen-years-old. I spent a lot of time angry with my dad, and I internalized it. Believe me when I say that it was hurting me more than I knew.

I was around 23/24 when I found out the woman I was dating was pregnant. We had only been together six months, but I knew I didn’t want them to have the same experience. I was raised by a single mother, and without the presence of a consistent father figure, I was afraid. I was afraid that I wouldn’t know how to be a good father.”

One thing that Brandon told me he noticed was how people assumed he would walk away from raising his own kids. Then he noticed that other black fathers in his community had low expectations of themselves, too. He was determined to do better. His second son was on the way, when he found out his dad had been murdered by an eleven-year-old, who in turn was killed by the people who hired him.

“He was shot nine times. When I saw his body for the first time after the murder, I bawled. It was the first time I had cried so hard in my life. My brother and I went to the police station, and they said that the case was normal. For $200.00 my dad was murdered, and that was normal. I realized then that there was a normalization of crisis situations. I knew I had to handle these emotions. I didn’t want my dad’s death to be in vain.”

The only thing was how was he going to do it? Now the father of three sons, he would have to learn how to be a father on the fly. “I didn’t have practice on how to be a dad. I grew up watching Cosbys, which was not my reality. How was I supposed to be a better father?” This thought was the birthplace of The Black Daddies Club.

“I want to talk about the redefinition of fatherhood. Whether it’s Wayne Gretzky, Tiger Woods, Serena and Venus Williams, they’ve all said that they’ve had or their fathers were instrumental in their success.”

When the idea first came to him for The Black Daddies Club, he was unsure of the name. He didn’t want to seem discriminatory. Brandon shared with me the story about when the name became affirmed for him.

“I went to check my cousin in prison for the first time with my mom. After visiting him, I realized I had to call it Black Daddies Club. I wanted an inclusive space to say to me what mattered. I decided to take some marketing courses, and this is when I learned about small fire events. I did my first small event in: Malvern, Kensington Market, Brampton and North York.

I was disappointed by the turn out. There were only 40% men and 60% women. The target market I was focused on hitting was not coming out, so I had to change my course of action.”

This is when he decided to take the conversation to the audience. He started to have discussions that were male focused in barbershops across the city. It worked well because the barbers acted like co-facilitators. Men felt comfortable speaking in a space that allowed them to be free, and unhinged. These small discussions turned into outings. As a group, Brandon noticed how powerful it was. The image of 10-12 fathers walking into a space with their children does provide some persuasive imagery.

“It is important to create spaces for honest dialogue.”

Brandon has defied many of the odds that society has set up for him. He completed his Masters in Environmental Studies (2015), visited Costa Rica where he learned how to centre himself and get in touch with nature, and has created a movement that has revitalized the idea of fatherhood in the African community.

“The one thing I can honestly say is that when these black fathers come to our programs, they discover one thing right off the bat. They’re not alone. That is key.”

Brandon’s larger goal is to have a Black Daddies Club throughout the diaspora. He believes that we become better fathers by being present and seeing fathering in action. Black fathers need support, and what better person to provide it to them than Mr Brandon Hay.

“Our goal is not just to create programs, it’s to create change, is to create policy change, is to create a movement built on love.”

We, as humans are guaranteed certain things in life: stressors, taxes, bills and death are the first thoughts that pop to mind. It is not uncommon that many people find a hard time dealing with these daily life stressors, and at times will find themselves losing control over their lives. Simone Jennifer Smith’s great passion is using the gifts that have been given to her, to help educate her clients on how to live meaningful lives. The Hear to Help Team consists of powerfully motivated individuals, who like Simone, see that there is a need in this world; a need for real connection. As the founder and Director of Hear 2 Help, Simone leads a team that goes out into the community day to day, servicing families with their educational, legal and mental health needs.Her dedication shows in her Toronto Caribbean newspaper articles, and in her role as a host on the TCN TV Network.

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Coopz – Manifesting the life of his dreams one photo at a time

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BY SELINA MCCALLUM

In the fall of 2022, extremely talented photographer, Bradley Fenton, also known as Coopz, told his brother Brandon that before the end of the year he was going to go on tour with an artist to take photos. The opportunity wasn’t being offered yet, but he was speaking it into existence.

Coopz is a Toronto-based photographer who grew up in Mississauga. He’s shot at music festivals in the states and in Toronto for a few years. Some of the trailblazing international artists he has photos of are: Coi Leray, Burna Boy, A Boogie with a Hoodie, and Shenseea. He has also taken photos of local trailblazers including DJ Rosegold, WondaGurl, Pressa, and Savannah Re. One of the first photos on his Instagram is of the infamous producer, DJ Khaled, which he took in Miami in 2017.

Coopz recalls when he was asked to go on tour in America with Toronto superstars, Leila Dey and Jessie Reyez for the month of November.

“I got invited to shoot the celebrity basketball game that happened in Toronto in October last year. I was doing all the headshots for all the local celebrities that were invited. I saw Leila Dey’s manager. He came up to me, and said he wanted to talk to me after. I was wondering what was going on. And he’s like, yeah, Leila is about to go on tour, and we want you to come with us and be our photographer and videographer.”

The Mississauga photographer couldn’t believe it.

“Same day I called my brother. I’m like, yo! You’ll never believe what just happened. I just got asked to go on tour. So, I was really excited. I was wandering around. It was unbelievable.”

The Mississauga native has been taking photos since he was in grade nine. He also has a sharp business and creative mind.

“I went to a Catholic school; we had civvies day, days where you get to dress up in your actual clothes. I brought a point and shoot camera to school, and I started taking photos with everyone. They loved them and wanted to post on their Facebook — back then there was no Instagram.

For Christmas that year, my parents bought me my first DSLR camera, and ever since then I’ve been shooting with that Canon T3.  I started taking photos every single day for people and started charging them $10. So, I was doing that in grade nine: shooting, making money, and already making a name for myself back in high school.”

Once Coopz was older, he started to do a lot of club photography, which is what helped him master how to use a flash. However, he didn’t want to be seen as just the club photographer.

“I wanted to get out of being a club photographer, because I felt like that hindered me a lot. When people see you as a photographer, in my opinion, I feel like they only want to book you for club stuff. I obviously wanted to branch out and do more things: personal photography and flying, traveling to different cities to shoot people.”

To overcome this, he decided to rebrand himself.

“I started going and shooting more celebrities in LA and Miami, and being like their personal photographer and eventually I started making a name for myself. I started doing hosting’s, so people will come out and party with me. It wouldn’t be me taking photos in the club, it would be me networking and bringing people with me to the club and doing different events. I just built up my own brand and my own name, where it just holds a different type of weight.”

Coopz name definitely holds a different type of weight as he has travelled across America with the incredibly talented and beautiful R&B singer Leila Dey from Toronto, who was opening up for headliner and superstar from Toronto, Jessie Reyez. It is never a dull moment while on tour as the photographer is always working.

“You don’t have to worry about anything else. You have to worry about making sure Leila looks good. With the photos, get her constant photos, constant videos. You just know what your job is. It’s just constant non-stop. It’s just capturing the moments at the right time.”

Coopz also mentioned that being on tour with Jessie’s team felt like being on the road with one big family.

This year, the talented photographer has jumped into real estate and is being mentored by his brother.

“I just got my first property. That is what I’m going to be doing with my brother. He is going to be helping me buy and sell properties. I’m the youngest of four brothers, and all my brothers are heavily business minded people. I always have someone to look up to and ask questions to keep me learning.”

When he’s not learning something new, he’s manifesting the next huge tour he’ll go on. Some of the artists he’d love to go on tour with are Jack Harlow, Kehlani, Lil Baby, Chris Brown, GloRilla, 50 Cent or Ice Spice.

“I love the touring experience, so I’m itching to go back again,” said Coopz.

Coopz also wanted to thank a good friend of his who has helped him for a long time.

“Shout out to DJ Rosegold because she has been helping me for a while, and always bringing me out and connecting me with people too.”

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Michael “Mobbin101” McCrary He is a Man of Business because it is Necessary

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BY SIMONE J. SMITH

“I know you were always going to be gangsta, but it doesn’t mean you can’t be a smart gangsta.”

This is what he was told at a young age. He had already experienced life in a way that many young African American men from East Palo Alto California had experienced. Known as the murder capital of the world, East Palo Alto California is home to one of the fastest, most irresistible sounds in Hip Hop. Even though he has faced challenges that some of us could not imagine, he has remained diligent, and has even taken it there by making his music known here in Canada.

Entrepreneur and Major Recording Artist Michael “Mobbin101” McCrary has become a shining star in the world of Hip-Hop. His work illuminates a vintage Hip-Hop sound that most new artists never master. He has an innate ability to intrinsically connect to a person’s: desires, passion, and fear and then magically translate these feelings into words that everyone can relate to.

Heavily inspired by: Nipsey Hussle, GCarter1300, Shill Macc, Bunk Ladden, and Shady Nate, you know when he comes up in the spot, he is not to be played with. What some people don’t know is that what makes Mobbin an unconventional Hip-Hop artist is the fact that he is also a professional football player. His hard work and diversified portfolio have made his name one of the hottest in his region.

2021 was “The Year of The Mob!” He released: “Mobbin’ 2.0,” “Diamonds On My Neck,” “Wrist” ft. BounceBack Meek and Nelly Starr, “2PM In Tulum” all turned out to be summer bangers.

He illustrates a grit and finesse that you will only find in the streets, and there was something about his voice and distinctive tone that spoke to me when I listened to his music. His multi-diverse catalogue narrates the intricacies and complexities of hustling, drug dealing, survival, street politics, and of course entrepreneurship. What makes our Classic Man this week epic, is his ability to tell a story, and what a story it is.

Of course, I had to reach out to Mobbin and have him share his storytelling with me.

“Mobbin101; what is that an acronym for,” I inquired?

“Man of Business because it is Necessary,” Mobbin tells me with a smile. “And 101 is the highway we reside off. I want men out there to Mob! Be Men of Business.”

“There is a lot about you online, but I haven’t had a chance to hear your story.”

“Well, I was born in Pensacola Florida. I am Haitian/Italian and Irish! I was raised in the California Bay Area! I was only born in Florida because my mom happened to be there on vacation.

My early life was not easy: when the crack era hit, it was real. Now that was a pandemic. Unfortunately, my mother was a drug addict, and my dad sold drugs. Like any addiction it was a disease, so my grandmother (on my dad’s side) raised me. Till this day I refer to my grandmother as my mom. My mom is still alive, and I love her, but she was not able to care for me. My dad and I come off as siblings, because the same woman raised us, plus I was always with my dad.”

Mobbin told me that his grades were always up to par; doing nothing was not an option in his grandmother’s house. In school he was recognized as an athlete; basketball was his first love, and then football became his love.

“I played football my whole life. I have relatives in the NFL, and the sport has always been very instrumental in my life. If it weren’t for football, I wouldn’t have graduated high school. I didn’t go on to college football right away.

I went to a few high schools and a few junior colleges. I graduated from Ceaser Chavez High School and graduated from West Valley College. I transferred to Withworth University in Spokane. It was a division three college, and also a Christian University. I will tell you this, going there was a complete culture shock for me. It was rural, and I am a city man, but I stuck it out.

I played pro-ball in Budapest, Mexico, and in South Carolina. I had to take a brief respite due to the pandemic, and during that time I started to pay more attention to music. Just like football, music is in the family.

I am a driven individual, and once I say something I am going to do it. People will hold your words and non-action against you. The original plan was to drop five songs and be done with it. Now I am on 25 songs.”

Mobbin 2.0 was a remix to a song written about his friends. Most people know him by his first single, “2 Pm in Tulum.”

“Tulum is the premier destination in the world. I had just landed there, and I was messing around with the beat, and then I finalized the song.”

Mobbin is a young man with a very bright future. I wanted to know what he had planned for 2023.

“I am going back to football, and I am a realest; if I can get one more professional deal, I will be content. The good thing is that going back to football will help with the music. It opens me up to an untapped market, and that way, both of my talents will be recognized.”

I have to say, I am proud of this young man. He has shown that he is more than capable of rising above his struggles and maintaining a positive outlook. He could have given up a long time ago, but he was able to cultivate resilience and perseverance, and this has made him the dynamic force that he has become.

Go ahead young man; you have our support!

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Reverend Dr.Gene Archer – Elevating community through spiritual and holistic education

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BY PAUL JUNOR

As a spiritual leader at the Pilgrim Church of the First Born (PCOFB) for over forty years, Reverend Dr. Gene Archer has committed his life to pastoring his local congregation. He was born on September 14th, 1952, in Jamaica, and after completing his primary and secondary education; he attended the Jamaica Theological Seminary in Kingston. He became a born-again Christian in July 1970 and after his immigration to Canada in the late 1970’s started PCOFB in Toronto in September 1977. The church will be celebrating its 47th anniversary in 2023 in what will be a historic occasion.

Rev. Archer is a Bible teacher and was an instructor at the Mount Olivet Bible Institute and Seminary (MOBIS). His church is a member of COFB Jamaica founded by Dr. Bent. The church celebrated its 87th anniversary in 2022. He is an ex officio member of the executive board of the Church of First Born Jamaica.

Reverend Archer continued his education in Canada, where he attended York University, Tyndale University and did doctoral work at Fuller Theological Seminary. He has spoken at: conferences, seminars, crusades, church anniversaries, church dedications, and varied church related events. He has a passion for teaching biblical trinitarian theology with a focus on Christology.

Rev. Archer’s hobbies include: reading, running, and learning about cellular health. He is interested in educating the community on the benefits of nutritional health. Although not a trained medical doctor, he is an avid reader and student of all aspects of: healthy eating, nutrition, and exercise.

Rev. Archer shares his wisdom on the Place for Wellness broadcast, which can be seen on Golive TV Channel. Golive TV advertises itself as the only multicultural IPTV that brings the community together. Over 2.7 million people have the ability to watch Golive TV, anytime, anywhere. It can be downloaded on the Google App store or you can get it on Google Play.

Rev. Archer discussed several topics which can be seen on Golive TV Channel at https://www.youtube.com on the following dates: August 4th, September 22nd, October 21st, November 4th, November 18th, and December 2nd. In a broadcast for PCOFB titled “Health Update” on May 17th, 2020, he mentioned that, “Your health is not an expense, it’s an investment.” The broadcasts have two functions: dealing with the spiritual and the physical side of the whole person.

In the broadcast titled, “Spiritual Safety,” on August 4th, Rev. Archer mentioned that God has given us the mucosal immune system, as the first line of defence in the body. It is an innate and adaptive (acquired) immune system. He talks about: social, relational and spiritual safety. He states, “What we crave is to be safe in relationships.” It is a place where we have a sense of belonging. It is said that the deep cry of every human heart is a cry for intimate belonging, where we feel safe to be as is.

In the broadcast on September 22nd, titled, “The Body is Sacred,” he states, “True health is not about looking good only on the outside, but treating our bodies with the respect and care that they deserve, so they can function optimally for God’s honour and glory. What we eat, how much we sleep and the quality of it, how we think, how often we exercise all have effects on our body’s overall functionality.”

In the broadcast on November 4th, he emphasized that, “The Place of Wholeness deals with the whole person, spirit, soul, and body.” His holistic approach has empowered his followers to take a look at how they treat the temple that God has given to them.

Over the years, Rev. Archer has promoted PureTrim’s natural health products. For him they are the safest, most effective and best on the market today. The health and wellness company offers wellness shakes, multivitamins and meal replacement bars based on principles of the Mediterranean diet. The 100% Plant-based, Vegan, Gluten-Free, and Dairy-Free products attract clients worldwide.

Dr. Archer hosts free weekly 30-minute health seminars on Zoom dealing with diverse health and related nutrition topics such as: diabetes, hypertension, weight loss, cardiovascular problem, immune health, and cancer.

On Thursday, November 30th, 2022, he did a presentation on using the Synergy Defence to deal with the Immune System. He states, “70% of our immune system is in our gut. Gut health influences: brain health, liver health, hormone health, cardiovascular health, kidney health, and of course, immune system health.”

On Thursday, December 8th, 2022, he presented on dealing with liver detox and health. He states, “Liver disease is on the rise at an alarming rate. Did you know there are over 100 liver diseases caused by a variety of factors? These factors include: viruses, toxins, genetics, alcohol, and unknown causes. Non-alcoholic fatty disease is the most common liver disease in Canada, affecting over seven million people. Liver cancer is now the fastest rising and deadliest forms of cancer in Canada.”

On Thursday, January 19th, 2023, he did a presentation dealing with Cardio-9. He states, “The number one cause of death in North America is cardiovascular disease. It can be avoided, stopped, and reversed. Endothelial Dysfunction mainly causes it. The lining of the arteries is damaged because of a drastic fall off in nitric oxide production along with bad diet and eating habits.”

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