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BY KATHY MCDONALD 

After receiving an email from a grade six student regarding bullying on April 11th, I decided to rewrite my column. This is a topic that is near and dear to me because I myself have been a victim of bullying, my seventeen year old son has been a victim of bullying and my best friend has been a victim of bullying. One thing I have learned about bullies is that if they go unchecked as kids they just become bigger and better bullies as adults. With the advent of social media bulling is getting easier, meaner and invariably the bully gets away scot-free. That is why at the Peel District School Board we have invested a lot of money, professional development and social capital into eradicating bullying. At the PDSB we strive to create safe and caring schools and teach character traits that help to foster such an environment. Are we a bully free entity? No…..But we are working diligently to tackle this “cancer” head on.

First, I would like to define bullying as established by the PDSB anti-bullying policy, as described to students in a kindergarten to grade five school. Bullying is being mean to others on purpose to hurt them or their feelings. Bullying behavior involves unequal power and control. Bullying is repeated behavior. Bullying can cause physical injury but may also include emotional and psychological harm. In the student agendas examples of bullying are also given they include threats, rumors, telling lies, cyberbullying, deliberate exclusion, racial slurs, name calling, damaging someone’s property or hurting someone’s body. “Bullying is defined by the Ministry of Education as “a form of repeated, persistent, aggressive behavior that is directed at an individual or individuals that is intended to cause (or should be known to cause) fear, distress and/or harm to another person’s body, feelings, self-esteem or reputation. Bullying occurs in a context where there is real or perceived power imbalance.”

When I decided to run for Trustee for wards 3 and 4 for the PDSB the bullies were out in full force. I got emails telling me to drop out of the race. I had a Sir Lankan lady tell me she would spread rumors in the South Asian community about me. She called me lazy (an adjective that has never been ascribed to me before), she would make condescending and hurtful comments about me. I had people make fun of my family members. How did I deal with these bullies? By diligently pounding the pavement day after day with my daughter in the stroller talking to the residents of wards 3 and 4. I gathered hard working individuals to help spread the word about all the work I have done in the community and my goals as a Trustee. I made only one promise; to work hard to represent my constituents. I got representatives from the South Asian community to give testament to my track record of helping anyone in need as the school council chair for two schools within the Board. Whenever I was feeling down because of their personal attack on me and my family I would imagine them running naked in the streets. That would get me laughing!

The best revenge was being sworn in as a Trustee on December 1st 2014, it’s receiving and graciously accepting glowing emails and being honored with various accolades from the South Asian community as well as several other community groups. It is in serving diligently the residents of wards 3 and 4. Now that I think about it, they have all disappeared from my life, these bullies are but a distant memory. Their power is lost; I guess bullying me is no more fun because I live by the mantra of Eleanor Roosevelt” No one can make you feel inferior without your consent”.

My son was a short and hefty brainiac. But he was mine and I loved him. However each grade up until grade four there was always one little jerk that took pleasure in taunting, harassing and belittling him. Benjamin was about a foot and a half shorter than everyone; but he made up for his height in his ability to excel in all he did. He was always the kindest, brightest, quickest and most helpful.  He was not a perfectionist but always tried to do his best and always had the biggest smile. Each school year I would go through the three week ritual of daily visits to the principal’s office until they were able to get the bully to desist. He would be beaten up for being smart. He would be beaten up for being short. He would be beaten up for winning too many trophies or competitions. He was almost hospitalized and permanently maimed by an angry white student whose mother was undergoing dialysis. When I threatened legal action that situation was quickly rectified. But the proverbial straw… yes the proverbial straw. Benjamin got fed up, had enough in grade four. Let us just say that after the schools biggest and “baddest” bully was finally confronted by his littlest victim no one has ever bullied him again. You see sometimes you just have to stand up to the bully and confront them head on and refuse to be victimized anymore. By the way, today Benjamin is a gorgeous, tall, track athlete and he is still a brainiac with a 97% average in an IB program. (I am his mom I can brag).

My best friend was constantly harassed by some female members of staff in leadership positions. He is racialised and over qualified for the position and is often subjected to subtle yet severe mental stresses. Often referred to as” you people” or because of his natural pleasant disposition being called “part of a country club”. Unreasonable and inhumane demands were being made. As a nonunionized worker he had to take legal action to get this stress inducing behavior to cease.

In the end whether you have to just simply excel, defend yourself or take legal action a bully should never be ignored because they just become bigger and better bullies. Their tyrannical reign will know no bounds if they are not forced to stop and exam their actions. Invariably bullies move on to easier or more vulnerable targets. So it is crucial that they are dealt with within the confines of the law. As we say in Jamaica. “If you fight with a pig you will get dirty and the pig will love it”. So don’t’ dirty yourself. Be assertive, and even if you’re shaking inside walk with your head held high and never let them see you sweat. So Walk Good-Belle Marché.

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Understanding the multiple layers involved in navigating education spaces Parents of Black Children launch Navigating the Education System

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BY PAUL JUNOR

The work of the advocacy group Parents of Black Children (PoBC) has made a significant and revolutionary difference by bringing issues to the forefront that help Black families at all levels.

For over two years now, it has organized events, workshops and initiatives that have provided important information to the Black community to bring empowerment, knowledge and deep understanding of the multiple layers of the complex dynamics involved in navigating education spaces.

There are five core principles that underlie PoBC understanding of racism:

  1. Racialization
  2. Racism is about power
  3. Critical racial theory
  4. Our stories matter
  5. Racism is founded on White supremacy

On Tuesday, November 23rd, 2021, they launched the document Navigating the Education System,” which was a very empowering, enriching and inspiring tool for diverse Black families. Kearie Daniels, one of the cofounders of PoBC and author of the document, moderated the launch. Furthermore, Claudette Rutherford, one of the cofounders of PoBC and author gave an extensive presentation of the details of the document, sharing useful insights, practical knowledge and interesting information.

PoBC shared a pdf document subsequent to the launch, which provided additional details in a fifty-three-page package. It contained relevant, contextual and vital resources. PoBC’s Advocacy Team supported the document, which includes Charline Grant and Xavier McLaughin.

In the introduction to the document the mission of PoBC is to “Provide support to parents of Black children across Canada and the United States. We advocate and work towards change and concrete action in our education system and adjacent systems such child welfare and the justice system.”

The launch of this vital document is a culmination of all the advocacy and activist work that PoBC has been extensively involved in. It serves to remind members of the Black community that there are resources, tools and supports available to ensure that Black children are able to thrive academically, excel mentally and flourish intellectually in spaces that may not be welcoming to their presence.

The document states that the navigate guide is “Geared towards families in Ontario, but the information can be applied to any jurisdiction where there are Black children and families.”

The document “Table of Contents” is useful and helpful. There is vital information on:

  • School board terms you need to know
  • Education organization you need to know in Ontario
  • Black families and the Child Welfare System
  • Black families and the education system
  • Black students and Individual Education Plans (IEPs)
  • Black students in High School.
  • Developmental delays in learning exceptionalities
  • Supporting students with learning exceptionalities
  • Selecting a school system
  • System abuse

PoBC presented a webinar on “System Abuse”. The document states,

“The system is not neutral. These systems were designed as part of a colonial framework that must be dismantled.” Furthermore, the document “Serves as a means to demystify the pitfalls within the education system and light a path towards a decolonized education system.”

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Toronto prepares families for COVID-19 vaccination of children

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BY PAUL JUNOR

There have been concerns, fears and anxieties as parents, caregivers and guardians anticipate the possibility of having their children under twelve vaccinated.

The Boston Globe reported on Friday, October 29th, 2021, that the FDA approved the administration of Pfizer COVID-19 vaccine to children between the ages of five to eleven. These children will receive one-third of the dose administered to teens and adults.

The Centres for Disease Control and Prevention met on Tuesday, November 2nd, 2021, in order to finalize details with respect to which children should be vaccinated first. In anticipation of these developments, Team Toronto has initiated a series of outreach and education sessions, as well as town halls in order to inform the Toronto community.

Parents of children between the ages of five to eleven who attend public schools will be receiving an email and an invitation to respond to a survey to “Support vaccine planning.”  This invitation will also be extended to parents whose children attend private independent schools as well. The survey will be administered by Toronto Public Health (TPH) and the City of Toronto VaxTO in order to “Better understand parents’ intent to vaccinate their children, how they would prefer to have their children receive their COVID-19 vaccine, and to obtain critical information on socio-demographic factors such as race and income.”

John Tory, Mayor of Toronto, is optimistic and positive about this development. He states in the press release, “While our work to get 90% of eligible residents vaccinated is continuing, we are also readying for when the vaccine will be available to protect kids five to eleven. We want to hear from parents, so we made sure we designed a vaccination program that works for kids and their families. This is just one more example of the outreach we are doing to prepare for this effort. This work is so important and will help us get kids vaccinated so they have the best protection against COVID-19 and so our schools can be as safe and as open as possible.”

Councillor Joe Cressy, Chair of Toronto’s Board of Health who has been at the forefront of advocating for the vaccination of margnizalied and at-risk communities is supportive of this campaign. He states, “At every stage of our immunization campaign, connecting with people on the ground has been critical to our success. Now, as we prepare for the rollout of vaccines to children aged five to eleven, we’re committed to engaging directly with parents, families, and community leaders to have active conversations about vaccinations for kids.”

In addition, Dr Eileen De Villa, Toronto’s Medical Officer of Health is a strong proponent of this campaign. She states,” When vaccines are approved for use and when we have supply we will ensure that we bring every resource to bear on this critical component of the vaccination campaign.”

The survey will be available as of Sunday, November 7th, 2021. It consists of fifteen questions that will be available online at s.tphsurvey.chkmkt.com in multiple languages. Parents and guardians will receive them from their children’s public school boards. In addition, there will be town halls for specified multilingual communities as well as neighbourhood-based telephone halls to ensure that the public has access to timely, necessary and relevant information for informed decision-making.

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Act as if what you do makes a difference. IT DOES

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BY SABRINA S. – 12 YEARS OLD

The school year is coming to an end, I’m sure that this year was hectic for everyone. Last year, we had a pandemic strike in the middle of the year and the world was sent into lockdown.

We didn’t get to go to school for the rest of the year.

Many students got to choose if they wanted to do school in-person or online, I chose online since I didn’t feel safe.

First day of school was very weird, most people don’t turn their cameras on, don’t even get me started on the wifi issues. I would lag out of the google meet many times and miss most of the instructions on the assignment. That is when friends come in handy, though I don’t get to see my friends that often, we still connect with some online games and phone calls through snap chat.

I don’t know where the time went, it just flew by. Last month was September and suddenly, I feel like we skipped eight months. I only have a week of school left! Because it is the last week of school, I have a lot of homework and final assignments to do but I know I’ll get through them and finish the school year.

I haven’t had time to go outside as well, I’ve been too busy with my assignments.

If my school year was this hectic, imagine the teacher’s year. I’m very grateful for everything my teachers have done for me and my classmates this year, they definitely deserve the three-month summer break. I’m sure my teachers doubted teaching online, but everything went okay and I learned lots.

“No matter how hard it is, or how hard it gets. I’m going to make it!”

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