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Routines, work, and mental health; Devising a clear plan for your psychological well-being

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BY SIMONE J. SMITH

“No one is an island in this.”

It has been an interesting year. 2020 promised to be the start of a new decade, a time of hopes, dreams and opportunities. What 2020 turned out to be is a contradiction to all of our beliefs.

In my daily conversations with all levels of the public, the resounding sentiment is about the difficulties adapting to our new life changes. Everything has been thrown off, and for some, this has presented new challenges, which affects the individual as well as the family. All we can do during this time is learn how to be ourselves in this new world. This means addressing issues concerning our routines, our families, our mental well-being, and our work.

Routines
When this all began, a lot of people wanted to burst out the gate setting schedules for themselves, and their children. Everything scheduled, right down to their lunches. Of course, for many, this did not work out.  Here are some concrete strategies that can be utilized to navigate your new world:

  • Start and end your workday at the same time. Now, everyone’s workday is different, but staying as close to your familiar schedule as possible helps create a sense of normalcy and will help you get more work done. Trying to resort to a new routine may add more stress to your life.
  • Make sure that everyone in your house is waking up at a reasonable hour. Brush your teeth, start with a good breakfast, and put some clothes on. Give your family a sense of what life is going to look like day-to-day.
  • Set aside quality time. Take some time to focus on interacting with your children and put your responsibilities to the side. Let your children direct the play and praise them for their ideas. When you have to get back to work, stay nearby, and let them know you are nearby if they need you.
  • Be mindful of the schedule you have set. It is easier to get your children to do homework if they know it is expected at a certain time. Surprising them with a request to do homework when they have settled in to play a video game will result in pushback that could be avoided.
  • Practice what you preach. You can’t be telling your children to “Get off the phone,” or “Stop watching television so much,” if you are yourself spending excessive amounts of time on your phone or watching television.

Work
Although in ways the world has slowed down, business continues to move forward, and the majority of us are working from home. This presents challenges, especially if it is not what you are used to. How do you go about being productive, and even increasing your productivity?

  • Find a place in your home that you associate with work; somewhere that puts your mind at rest. It could be a small desk, or the kitchen table, as long as it mentally prepares you to be productive.
  • Create a space that is stimulating. Light a candle, keep a photo or vision board nearby, and make sure there is plenty of light. Make sure that you are comfortable and that your senses are stimulated.
  • Dress up. You have to feel like you are going to work. Style your hair, brush your teeth, and get out of your pyjamas, which separates your sleep state from your wake state. Getting ready as you normally would for work helps put you in the mental state to be productive.
  • Visually communicate. It is encouraged to communicate with your co-workers using video platforms. It allows you to observe facial expressions and offers connection. If you have younger ones, schedule calls over nap time or screen time. Although you might be tempted to close your door, this often triggers children and they will seek to connect with you, so stay present and available.
  • Create a pandemic job description. Set new expectations with yourself, and discuss them with your boss, or your team. Unlike your former workspace, you may have children in the background, and they might make surprise cameos in your Zoom videos. Write your current job description, and then revise it with your new one, adding your new complexities.
  • Don’t forget to take breaks. They are good for you mentally and physically. Get up and make a coffee. Plan your workout between projects, phone calls or meetings. Go for a walk. Avoid the trap of scrolling through social media. You know how easy it is to get caught up in that.

Mental Health
One of the most concerning issues during this time is the mental health of our community. How are some ways that we can address mental health, especially for those who might be in denial that they are experiencing these challenges?

  • Stop pretending that there is nothing wrong. Statements like, “Everything is going to be fine,” actually stokes an anxious brain. It will prompt the need to continually seek that reassurance, which grows anxiety. Instead, try statements like, “We are doing the best we can,” or “We are trying to make things better for us right now. That is why we are doing what we are doing.”
  • Avoid anxiety priming. If your child is already anxious, you as a parent must avoid pointing out all the dangers; “Stay away from that person. Did you wash your hands? Don’t touch the doorknob.” Yes, these things are true, but pointing them out only heightens anxiety.
  • Keep an eye out for behaviour changes in yourself and your children. Changes in sleep, appetite, mood (feelings of frustration, anger, hopelessness, loss of pleasure), lack of motivation, increased substance use (marijuana, alcohol), are all behaviours that may indicate some mental health challenges. It is important as a parent to be aware that your children are watching to see how you handle stress, and they will pattern it.

It is important that we keep the dialogue going on how to adjust to our evolving situation. This is not easy but sharing positive information with each other will help us move from day to day.

 

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Timeless music brought to life on stage; Welcome to the Soul Nostalgic Experience

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BY SIMONE J. SMITH

“Ladies and gentlemen, welcome to the Soul Nostalgic Experience! Tonight, we’re taking a journey back in time to relive the magic of an era that continues to inspire and captivate audiences worldwide. Are you ready to feel the groove?”

The audience erupts into cheers and applause as the band launches into a classic soul tune. People start swaying in their seats, unable to resist the infectious beat. A few brave souls even start dancing in the aisles.

Imagine being transported back in time to the golden era of R&B and Soul music, where smooth melodies and infectious rhythms ruled the airwaves. Now, envision this timeless music brought to life on stage with the energy and spectacle of a Las Vegas residency.

That’s precisely what the Soul Nostalgic Experience is all about. As I stepped through the doors, I was greeted by the smooth ambiance of classic R&B tunes mingling with the clinking of glasses and the tantalizing aromas wafting from our kitchen. The atmosphere was electric, alive with the anticipation of what the night had in store.

In the heart of Toronto’s vibrant music scene, there exists a figure who orchestrates brilliance from the shadows. Steve Hollywood, a name whispered among those in the know, is the unseen force behind many of the city’s musical endeavors. Despite his significant contributions, he stays removed from the spotlight, preferring the quiet hum of behind-the-scenes influence. Regardless, his presence remains enigmatic, known only to those privileged enough to collaborate with him. It’s a rare invitation to glimpse into his world, an offer extended to a select few, beckoning them to join the symphony of creativity he meticulously curates.

On Thursday, April 25th, 2024, the Toronto Caribbean Newspaper was welcome to the Acqua Supper Club, where the heartbeat of Toronto’s R&B and Soul scene will pulsate throughout the summer. Nestled in the heart of the city, the venue is a sanctuary where men and women will be able to gather for unforgettable evenings of soulful music and culinary delights.

At the helm of this musical journey is none other than DRU, a Juno Award-winning and gold record artist with a visionary passion for bringing back the magic of the 90s and 2000s R&B/Soul era. From timeless classics to contemporary hits, his performance was a journey through the soul, evoking nostalgia and stirring the spirit. Inspired to create something truly special, DRU collaborated with the immensely talented The Recipee Band to craft a show unlike any other. The Recipee Band, comprised of musical virtuosos: Jason Larmond, Otis Williams, Juwayon Clarke, and Jonathan Kerr, bringing over two decades of collective experience to the stage.

Drawing from a diverse range of genres and generations spanning from the 50s to the present, The Recipee Band serves as the backbone of Soul Nostalgic, infusing each performance with their unmatched musicality and passion. Soul Nostalgic isn’t just a concert; it’s a collective of exceptional talent coming together to create an immersive experience that will transport you back in time.

The night brought me through a ray of emotions, from high-energy dancing to electrifying live music, every moment of the show was designed to make you groove and feel good.

As the night unfolded, I found myself immersed in a world where time seemed to stand still, where the troubles of the outside world faded away, and all that mattered was the connection between music, food, and community.

I completely co-sign on this unforgettable journey. On May 30th, 2024, they are sharing this experience with the city again, so get ready to dance, sing along, and relive the magic of an era that continues to inspire and captivate audiences worldwide. This is more than just a concert; it’s the Soul Nostalgic Experience.

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Generational survival: Can our young people survive our generation?

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BY STEVEN KASZAB

The young people of the day are often criticized for not voting or participating in our electoral and public service efforts. Called bubble wrapped by some, those who attend schools of higher learning face challenges presented to them such as: professors who are not objective but espouse various ideologies of the left or right. Professorial prejudices often place the young student in academic limbo, encouraged to choose their professors preferred political outlook.

Raised to be democratically inclined, our youth often witness the actions of our establishments, which can appear to be very undemocratic. Terms like “Do as we say, not as we do,” hypocritical actions by the administration and police often lead our youth an openness towards misguided ideologies and movements of purported social change.

Our youth are encouraged to insert themselves into local, national and international politics, only to be witness to the horrible events, misinformation and the manipulative nature of global media who present their own interpretation of said events. Media is in fact a business manipulated by corporate and politically friendly owners. So, how can our youth truly believe what is in fact real, truthful, honest and objectively presented?

Our youth will often develop a sense of “Stockholm Syndrome” like attitudes, actions and desires. Desire to change a society that is obviously unacceptable but have an attitude to accept no other message except that which is given by their governments and institutions.

Our youth find the idea of voting in a system that remains the same, changes nothing and has players who all look and act alike to be a waste of time and effort. There will always be bad guys, taxes, raising prices, and diminishing opportunities. One’s outlook can be deflated, filled with nervous tension and even fatalism. War, addiction, premature deaths, abortion, women rights, democracy while supporting and doing business with dictatorships.

To be young, means to create, grow and aspire to positive things. Our national and global experience is seen as the opposite of that approach. There is simply: too much going on, too many people being harmed, too little opportunity, too much misinformation, too much greed to allow our young to develop in a well-balanced, mentally positive manner.

Mental health concerns for not only the youth, but our own as adults challenge us to change our ways, assist each other with an: empathetic, charitable manner, open minds and hearts.

Our young people are our treasure and future hope. If they are screwed up, so too are our future expectations and future goals. We have to continue to work on getting it right.

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The Black Business and Professional Association (BBPA) scandal: Is there room for corrections and restoration?

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BY MICHAEL THOMAS

After over 40 years of upholding a legacy of integrity and excellence, accusations and allegations of mismanagement of public funds and conflict of interest have raised its ugly head at the Black Business and Professional Association (BBPA).

As I investigated the meat of information surrounding this case it is easy to see why many buzzards are circling this prey. One of the main allegations I have noticed is that BBPA management awarded contracts to companies controlled by the former President and CEO, Nadine Spencer, without appropriate due diligence. Again, if this turns out to be true, an organization that has been in business for four decades must have seen this coming.

If the rules of receiving the funds, or government grants say that you must put out tenders to hire workers, then by all means do so. We have to remember that bad news travels twice the speed of good news.

There is more; on November 5th, 2021, the BBPA’s President at the time, Nadine Spencer became the CEO where she was allegedly paid in the range of $250,000. This was used to make the comparison that a bigger organization was thriftier with their money than BBPA, here is how. As an example, the Executive Director of Tropicana Community Services, a much larger non-profit organization, earned a salary of $163,671 in 2023.

My job in this article is not to throw BBPA under the morality bus, but to shed a bit of light on how as a people we must realize that all eyes are on us. Something I quickly spot is how many mainstream media took the opportunity to jump at this alleged scandal in BBPA, yet, for over four years now Canada has been led off the cliff, and because these same mainstream media folks were paid and funded, they looked the other way.

Do I condone the misuse of public funds? Hell no! If these allegations are proven to be true, should BBPA be held accountable? Hell yes!

That said, I went to BBPA’s website to have a bird’s eye view of what this organization is all about, and after reading I must say I was impressed.

I am hoping that BBPA realizes that to whom much is given, much is required.  An organization that has kept such a sterling reputation over the last four decades need not look only in its rearview mirror, but in blind spots as well.

Misappropriation of funds is no laughing matter regardless of how big or small an organization is, nor is conflict of interest. These are tantamount to having blood stains on white garments. If proven there needs to be public apologies, and most importantly “a complete cleaning of the house.”

The Boards of Directors of the BBPA released a statement on Friday, April 26th, 2024, in response to the call for their resignation in the midst of the allegations of financial mismanagement. The statement was addressed to BBPA members/supporters. It states, “We want you to know that we have been listening to the concerns that have recently been raised. The BBPA has hired independent professionals to undertake the appropriate reviews. The current BBPA Board has and continues to proactively take steps to strengthen governance and compliance practices. We are all dedicated to learning, improving, and continuing to work together through this process. We, as Directors, also want you to know that you can reach out to us any time for a conversation.”

Now in the case of Mr. Harry Jerome’s daughter, when one engages in asking an organization that has upheld her father’s name for four decades to quit using the name. I would like to think that this individual has solid proof of wrongdoing, or if proven wrong is ready to apologize as well, but with all these wolves circling the wagon. I understand her plight.

Starting from a small gathering that honored just six Black Canadian athletes who excelled at that year’s Commonwealth Games in 1983, to an organization that built an endowment fund of close to $600,000, and in the last 24 years the fund has granted over 650 scholarships totaling close to 2.5 million dollars, BBPA has a lot to be proud of.

However, if these allegations are found to be false, I am hoping that the accusing parties will do the right thing and apologize. On the other hand, if BBPA is found to be in the wrong, then the organization should be wise enough to rock the boat and throw those found guilty of tarnishing BBPA’s and Mr. Harry Jerome’s good reputation completely overboard.

According to news sources, BBPA has categorically denied all allegations. Whichever way this cookie crumbles, BBPA, your decision should and must make your people, and the late sprinter Mr. Harry Jerome’s name and family proud.

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